Re: Post marriage independence, privacy or abandoning your parents?
I agree with you Jaanwar. I have 3 brothers and as much as I don’t expect ALL of them to stay with my parents after they get married (as there would be issues of space.. heck, we do not live in mansions), I would expect atleast 1 of them to stay with my parents. The reason for that is, well my parents have spent their whole lives in a home full of their children.. always so many people about. Now, I know that if my parents were to live on their own, they would be able to manage alongside eachother Alhumdulillah, BUT they would feel lonely and they would prefer having someone live with them.. it would make them happy.. so if all my brothers would want to move out in the future, no one will stop them but personally I would’t be happy and I know my parents wouldn’t deep down, though they would never say it.
As for me, I wouldn’t mind the joint family system and WOULD live with in-laws in the future. The main reason for that is because of what I said above.. I don’t want my bro and future-bhabhi to move out of MY parents house.. so I wouldn’t think of my future-hubby’s relationship with HIS parents as any different or less important. Btw, having said this, it’s not wrong for a couple to move out if they are having SERIOUS problems with the in-laws and the distance would actually do their relationship a lot of good..
