Is it irritating for guys to see their wives being possessive and defensive of them?
Being possessive is also a sign of love,isn’t it?I want to know whether guys really get irritated with their spouses’ this habit?
I am actually waiting to read some replies here. I don't mind a guy who is possessive about me, as long as the trust is there and he does not question/suspect my every move. I am a girl though, so I guess my reply here does not count. Can't wait to see some responses from the male species of the forum ...
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I am 101% possessive.
I dont trust people easily but I make friends.
About a girl in my life yes I trust her a lot and that trust caused possessiveness in me.
PS: For those Social ladies who will comment on my words and relating it to that PIND style possessiveness . No I down OWN her but I cant bear any other guy activity with her. So no comment about being a harsh and dominated husband.
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I know I am quite possessive by nature but I also don't express that possessiveness at all because I think I may come across as insecure or lacking confidence.
I would love to know guys' perspective on this.
I'm also very interested in the guys' perspective here---men of GS, where are you? Because I grew up in the US and am used to free interaction between men and women, I don't naturally go overboard on the jealousy/paranoia, but have had a few conversations with my husband about where the limits should be in terms of friendships with the opposite gender. He does have one old female friend and at times I've been uncomfortable with what I felt was overly affectionate/touchy-feely behavior between them, but after our conversations he's been awesome about respecting my feelings on the matter.
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Possessiveness comes natural in a relationship. Only morons/moronesses destroy their relationship over it.
And both should act properly, when possessiveness is being addressed in a relationship I thinks relation is pretty much over.
Where are other guys 
…comeon,we’re waiting for your replies..
Big difference in being possesive and being controlling and suffocating.
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hubby should be nurturing his wife, and not pimping her. :)
Delicate difference.
Men come in forms of friends, colleagues, relatives not all men are sleazy ogres. Most men have great respect for married women.. and keep their distance. Who knows after marriage the same friends can become common friends of both..
Like I said big difference between being possesive, doubting your partner/spouse and being controlling.
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Sure!
it usually wife's behaviour to wards those "friends" what bothers men.
Occasional use of lovey dovey worrds for the ppl who were mention as friends, makes all the difference. It takes a sec for some one to lose their credibility. :)
Men too don't need to be suffocated on daily basis. :)
For extremely possessive women this would matter of put them in hubbies shoes, like "what would I feel like If he does the same"
Its very easy.
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My hubby wants me being possessive but i am not ...... yeh mayb defensive sumtyms which shows my luv towards him tht i cant lstn nething wrong said bout him .
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Being possessive is fine, and healthy. Being a psycho is not. If your partner is secure enough, they wont get on your nerves.
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What part a partner play to make other one secure?
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^ By not talking / flirting / being overly friendly with other females, i think ! :halo:
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no they love it. You should call them every 4 mins. You know, just to check.
I have no posessiveness in me. I can't help it. I think it has somthing to do with supreme arrogance.
Within reason, it can be a sign of love. Because few people would want to share their significant other with someone else.
HOWEVER, when possessiveness is taken into an extreme (calling every 5 mins to check up on person, getting mad at them for talking platonically to someone of opposite sex, doubting their every move/words/intentions)…THEN...it becomes a sign of insecurity and control issues…an indication of low self-esteem.
^That’s when the “possessiveness” becomes irritating not only for guys but also for girls. ** Both** **genders **want a partner that is confident and secure enough with themselves to show trust and flexibility.
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hawwwww
yeah kia keh dia.. you are so going to stoned to … u know..
If women don;t do all that.. they can’t breath…
Possessive means lack of trust for whatever reason and thats definately not a good sign in a relationship.
Within reason, it can be a sign of love. Because few people would want to share their significant other with someone else.
HOWEVER, when possessiveness is taken into an extreme (calling every 5 mins to check up on person, getting mad at them for talking platonically to someone of opposite sex, doubting their every move/words/intentions)....THEN...it becomes a sign of insecurity and control issues.....an indication of low self-esteem.
^That's when the "possessiveness" becomes irritating not only for guys but also for girls. Both **genders **want a partner that is confident and secure enough with themselves to show trust and flexibility.
:AID: well put!