Possessive Pakistani Ladies

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I’ve actually experienced the other side to this…the guy who didn’t want me to speak to ANY other guy even in a proffesional context and made me feel guilty for even saying hello to male colleagues…:bummer:

During this time I found it very difficult to maintain good working relations with clients and colleagues, cos I was always on edge that I might get accused of goodness knows what…:rolleyes:

Thank goodness I got away from that one…it was really appalling…

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Perhaps only if the went in the workplace without tons of makeup on their face no one would find the need to talk to them.. by the way this is not to be taken seriously since it is written by bored 14-year-old

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Correct. It is not just women, Pakistani men do it more.

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If my husband wouldnt want me to talk unneccassarily with guys I would find it sweet that he cares about me so much.

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^ Impulse, what about if he didn't understand and accept that it was necessary for you to talk to a guy because it's your job...?

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he'd understand if I HAVE to talk...for example my job as a pharmacist involves talking to patients both male and female and also with colleagues....However I find it cute when he gets angry when another guy shows hes interested in me....or tries to flirt etc...
for example, I dont NEED to talk to a guy via phone and i dont need to have his number and vice versa.....also when some guys try to be extra nice to me....he doesnt like it...also if a guy wants to do me a favour.....he doesnt like it....he'd rather do it for me himself.

I just find it sweet:)

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I would feel trapped.

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Yes, I agree it's sweet to know that you're appreciated and he doesn't like the idea of guys flirting with you...protecting your izzat kinda thing...

The situation I had was awful, I worked for a bank and was expected to hold meetings with clients (male and female) and and he just couldn't handle that...I would get told off for having a meeting with a male client...I mean for goodness sake - I had to do it...it was my job...sheesh! Just mind boggling...

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I know an Australian guy and a Spanish girl that are in a long term ready relationship and they have an arrangement that they do not have friends of the opposite sex. I thought it was strange and maybe they were insecure...but they are happy and it works for them and thats all that matters.

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Iconoclast, I'm increasingly becoming more utilitarian. It just really makes me mad when all people see is black and white, when there is so much gray in the world.

Like for example, this thread. I have yet to see people acknowledge that you can talk to someone of the opposite sex outside the work environment, outside a romantic or sexual relationship, and it be totally harmless.

Either its "I talk to the opposite sex and nowhere else", or "don't talk to anyone of the opposite sex at all".

What the heck do some of you do? Not even crack a smile at someone you're going to school with or work with?

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Phoenix…like I said I dont mind at all…he’s masha-allah very open minded…so he has no issues with me having to talk to guys when necessary…cuz he says he trusts me 100%. he himself doesnt like it when guys dont trust girls…I never get told off for it…its more like he gets angry with the guys..like sometimes when a guys being too friendly…he doesnt like it…i just find it very cute and makes me love him even more:)

which reminds me, im missing him right now :teary1:

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However I find it cute when he gets angry when another guy shows hes interested in me....or tries to flirt etc...

This is the mentality I am talking about. Its subtle, but its exactly what I'm talking about.

I simply raised the issue about: (notice the logical pattern here)

women not letting their men talk to people of the opposite sex.

This one took it to mean:

women not letting their men FLIRT with other ladies

Chanda, last I checked "talking" and "flirting" are not synonyms.

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Since there is nothing controlling the men with their desires

There's no need for my man-are-pigs presence in this forum anymore. I think the men are taking that job over for me now.

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alot of times people get the wrong idea when ur friends with them...so i just try to avoid that situation....so i dont end up hurting anyone.

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there are so many desperate girls in the west, that talking often means flirting.

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Oh, so its a "laug kya kaheinge" issue.

That explains why we're so disunited. We're not worried about taking care of one another. We're just worried about what others will say. God forbid someone say I'm a harlot for cooking brownies for my male classmates and making jokes with them.

Darnit, I'm going to hell.

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desperate girls in the west????

Then why are you here in the west? Are you not desperate too? You must feel so lonely high up there on the pedestal of virtue.

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who said that??? i dont care what anyone says....I just know what the girls in the west are like....cuz ive been living with them for many years.....and I wouldnt trust them around any guy....cuz ive seen them "talking" to other guys and i know how they are.

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the majority of the western girls that i know are desperate....by western i mean those who have the western thinking....

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PCG is my hero :Salute:

aap ko duniya k mishkil treen kam konsay lgty hen**