Positive Stories about Imported Men

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They do and they dont
a pakistani MBA is not considered equal to a US MBA..atleast that was the case, two of my cousins from IBA had to redo their masters here.

1- where did they go to school? LUMS and IBA vs something else....i mean its the same, MBAs from top 20 or even top 40 do better than MBAs from other unis here in US, same for overseas.
what is the skill-set and experience...this is where it gets very complicated
2-how good are you at what you do
3- what is your experience...e.g. with a major company with brand recognition
4- how relevant is it to local needs..are you immediately deployable
5- how so you stack up to local competition..or other foreign grads..

to illustrate
A) a brilliant MBA from a top school in Pakistan with financial mgmt skills working for P&G in pakistan for multiple years...vs...
B) avg dude went to a generic school, or worse, one that is not recognized here, and focused on an area which is starkly different to local needs, and you worked at some local small company that is not known..

That being said, I know someone who went to a rather so so uni in pakistan, affiliated with some US uni, and moved to Canada and has a decent job. the question also is what is decent for you. Ivy MBAs start 100K plus easily, and there are many MBAs sitting at 50K, now as they grow the salary will go up quite fast..a growth by an additional 100K+ within 10 years is realistic but you have to go for it.

PCG if you are talking to a dude in pakistan, his best bet is to get training and experience in tech space...not to be a coder but use his finance focus in SAP financials for example, or get certified in Adobe Test and target, or SPSS and analytics, or HR guys can get oracle HR.....there is always a demand for those skills. If you have a business acumen and have tech skills at any level, you are going to find it much easier than not.

have the dude contact me, or share his background with me and I will give you an honest opinion of what i see as pros and cons ..limited by my own understanding, but hopefully that will help

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I have not seen one positive story of an imported groom here. By what various of my friends and relatives have gone through with middle class imported pakistani grooms makes me shudder. Don't do it unless you are 100000000000000% positive and have made inquiries left, right and centre.

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Huh? I read quite a few that were positive. But yes your right, you do have to do extensive inquiring before going for it.

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^ I should rephrase that. When I say "here" it means in my immediate community where too many unsuspecting girls have been deceived by imported grooms.

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I know of a lot of couples where the guy was sponsored. all worked out except for 1 which ended in like 8years of marriage. The guys all got jobs and helped support the house, or the girls just became housewives after.

For all of them, the guys stayed home for a year or more until either they finished there USMLE/Taxi Exam/or just figured out what to do.

For an MBA, DONT think for a second that they guy is going to get a white collar job, within the month...
You will be lucky if he can find work with in 6 months.

Its a big culture shock, these guys are coming from a male dominated society. They are coming to you, where you control everything. Some guys are great, they will be helpful. Some guys will get a complex, and try to find ways of controling you, giving you a hard time, your family a hard time. They do it because they feel bad that they are basically nothing when they come here.

Also keep in mind, that there are certain cultural things. For example, my husband doesnt want me to shake hands with anyone, he doesn't like me listening to an Ipod. Yes, thats right he thinks Ipod is like a slutty thing. Because in pakistan, its not common to walk around with headphones on. A couple of times he took my cell phone and looked through it. Ever so slowly he is improving. But he gives me a hard time.

A couple of things are for sure. YOU will support him. There will be times, that even though you support him, you wont get your way. You will have to teach him how to live here. I say if you can't find anyone here, then pick up someone from Pakistan. But definately try here as well.

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bump

In the spirit that an identical thread like this was created but genders reversed. :pcg:

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Wow. Good for them. I've never heard of anything like this before.