Re: Positive Stories about Imported Men
That isn’t necessarily true. If both parties are willing to compromise and make adjustments, it is possible to have a successful marriage to someone from abroad. I have a friend who married a gentleman from back home (back home being Afghanistan in my case) about 3 years back and they are quite happy. He didn’t have any issues getting a job in his field either. It was not immediate but it also didn’t take him more than half a year (including the time it took take a couple of equivalency exams). However, during the time that he was looking for a job and getting everything sorted, he didn’t find it beneath him to do household stuff while my friend was at work and my friend didn’t act as if she was doing him a favour by marrying him or by taking care of the household bills for the time being.
Also, contrary to popular opinion, it isn’t only the “imported” partner that must adjust. The other person must be willing to adjust to living with a person who had a different upbringing than themselves and most likely has a different outlook on certain things. Both people must be willing to adjust and make compromises and make concessions if necessary. The problem with some people is that they hold the belief that it is only the “imported” partner that must adjust and are not willing to make any adjustments themselves.