Re: Pornography in families - AGE APPROPRIATE
the 'friend' that was telling me about her friends husband watchign porn isnt the point
my point is that people especailyl muslims are watching it...simple.
shriek11: just because your not 'doing' something with a woman doesn't mean its not haraam - ur eyes and ears and everything is still being exposed to it - and that is haraam. Guys and girls have a hijab towards these things. Its haraam.
I know it was wrong of her to tell me...and i did. and tehres no way that n e one will find out who it is.. i dont even know. but im just saying that normal muslim guys are doing this...its disgusting
Lets take a hypothetical scenario :
**Scenario #1 **
husband watches porn and wife knows
**Scenario #2 **
husband is seeing this another girl and spending lots of time with her (wife knows )
Scenario #3
husband is involved in some extra-marital affair which is physical. (wife knows about it )
**Scenario #4 **
husband is getting married after an affair and taking a second wife ( first wife knows about it)
Now tell me which situation is least desireable for a woman's point of view ???
Now hareem bibi can provide you with a freshly baked fatwa that the most un-wanted situation for most muslim women , Islam does not have a problem with it !
If you find first situation as disgusting then how would you describe the 2nd 3rd and 4rth situation. Mind you just like watching porn , these other situations are quite common in muslim society. You can very well testify that; since you are quite social.
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Another thing discussed at the lecture was why so many ppl are turning to porn is because apparently couples that are not having a very intimate relationship are being recommended by marriage counsellors to watch pornography. And therefore it obviously influences the way couples are intimate with each other. and also they siad that it causes couples to turn to porn etc which is clearly prohibited in islam, just because they aren't feeling that intimacy with their spouse.
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The counsellors has rightly identified the reason. And offered one sollution, but there are many other workable sollutions out there one needs to apply brain.
Some years after marraige, graph of intimacy plunges into a nose dive ... And husband and wife find each other boring... a husband/ wife can easily spice up there lives.
- wife can stay in shape and keep husband in shape too
- if wife is out of shape then make sure your husband is elder brother of humpty dumpty, otherwise if husband is fairly handsome and wife is humpty dumpty then you should hear the alarm bell ringing loud and clear.
- Wife can buy and wear skimpy cloths for husband and do kinky stuff in their privacy. (hint : fantasy ; super man , cat woman role play, doctor patient , nurse doctor, etc ... sorry but my imagination is little too fantastic )