Poor relationship with mother. How did you deal with it?

[phoenixdesi]

Re: Poor relationship with mother. How did you deal with it?

@Babybird

Thanks to all who replied. I disagree with cutting ties,** my family is uber cultural** and islam doesn’t advocate it.

In terms of treating her with kindness, I have tried on many occasions over the years but it gets thrown right back at me. It’s soul destroying hearing the constant criticism and although the situation is no where near as bad as it was my emotions are oddly hyper sensitive. I was so more resilient while younger.
I guess it is the anxiety that has drained me from all the antics. I will take advice and distance myself from her. A huge part of me craves love from my mother still. When will I learn … ��

Ironically I wish my saas was my mother. She is so sweet and kind and I’ve never had any issues even though I’ve been married for over a decade.
I should remind myself of the good things I have and focus less on the difficulties that I have no control over.

ok so your father is a very cultured person but at the same time he is also a worst type of authoritarian and no one can stand up to him…i am just quoting you. that is what you said few posts above. now what type of cultural person is he?

and your mom is a psycho who always put you through hell for no reason and she was physically abusive as well. ok got it.

so you have an authoritarian father who does not listen to anyone and you have an extremely abusive and violent mom…but then you again claim that you family is “uber cultural”. excuse me?

why do you need to keep telling all of us that you belong to a very cultured family. i am sure you are but then you keep on telling us how pathetic your parents have been especially your mom. Nothing seems to be cultural in this episode.

you see the disconnect? you seem really confused and i have a feeling that you are not telling us the full story. I am not being rude. I am legitimately confused. something is not right.

how abt this.we have heard about your mom and all the bad things she did but is it possible if you can list 3 things that you did wrong or were you always on the right side of coin?

and if you have never done anything seriously wrong, then it means that your mom is a habitual psychologically disordered violent person. in that case she needs sympathies and psychological treatment not a public bashing. no?