Re: Polygamy and Islam
Anyone with issues with it can argue with God when they get their chance.
why have relgion forum if that's the answer in face of road-block
Re: Polygamy and Islam
Armughal
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the Prophet (saw) says that marriage increases a person's rizq hence saying that due to financial matters a wife can stop her husband from re-marrying wud be refuting the saying of the prophet (saw)....
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A reference would be highly appreciated, mod.
It really woke up some memories..... When I asked my husband not to remarry, because I was away etc. He quoted the exact same hadice.
But, Allahjee is all knowing.....
Instead of his risq being increased, he really went broke. All the investments
I had done for the name of marriage, went down the drain.
When he married me, business would blooming. Yet he didnt know how
to manage a business practically, the financial side of it. He got flats and 2 taxis and a limousine too. I guess, he thought he could just remarry asap
and make things run.
The reality:
He got diabetes now. Former mistress, now second wife had miscariage and
she is almost infertile now due to medical reasons at age of 36. She is not
able to work at all, having severe panthom pain.
The economy of my husband is loco. He started to work as engineer, before
that he used to work outside his field. But, he is in no position to support me.
At end, whom becomes the big looser? ------>Pathani.
Every man think, they can treat wives equally, but truth is, the heart and mind of a man can only harmonize with one wife. The prophets and sahaba were better and higher caliber of being man. And today, we do have a choice.
Trust me, by accepting second wife, it does not make life easier or happy.
Im talking with real hand experience.
If I had had years of marriage or kids, I would not be as hurt as I am.
The trick is also not to violate the first wife.
To give her some years of undivided attention.
To give her kids and security.
Re: Polygamy and Islam
^Agree with you, if it was meant to be so; God himself would have made 4 (or multiple) Eves for one Adam.
Re: Polygamy and Islam
Not telling the 1st wife about your 2nd marrige, ha ha ha, if you have no communication, empathy, or any regards to her feelings then what kind of marriage are you in?? Please don’t marry again, if you cant even keep one wife happy. Also what about STD’s, if you have multipal sexual partners this cannot be a good thing right??
Personally if my husband did this I would not tolerate it. To even think about him being intimate with another woman 
aaaaargggh!!!
Obviously I’d be jealous who wouldnt???
This is another example of men taking the bits from religion that suit them and conveniently forget about the others.
Re: Polygamy and Islam
Sounds logical.
Re: Polygamy and Islam
skhan: True the prophet did had many wives, but prior to his polygamous situation, he was in a monogamous situation with Khadija (R) - wasn't he?
And does the Quran not promote monogamy over polygamy? It says clearly that if you FEEL like you might do injustice in marrying more than once, then stick to one. Most men with a level head would probably fear doing some injustice.
Now, if you want to follow in the sunnah of the Prophet, and you claim that you should take more than one wife, then take care to heed the other many features of the sunnah. Given that very very very few men on this planet can manage that task, its only logical when a woman will raise her eyebrow at a man who is ambitious about taking on more than one wife.