Pointers

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I need pointers on:

  1. how to ignore people better without them knowing that I am ignoring them
  2. how to not get mad quickly
  3. how to not pick on people when they say silly stuff
  4. how to take people seriously when they are being overly dramatic
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OK my take is:
1) Ignorance isnt a nice quality but if u are gonna ignore- dont maKe any eye contact if the persons near u - if ur online u simply dont bother responding!!!!
2)Say Taawuz ( Auzubilla..) 3 times sat or lying and then drink sum water- or read a verse from the Quran, or read 2 nafl or alternatively go to a place where no one is about and sing/ dance/ swear to ur hearts content, or meditate, or do some retail therapy ( thats laways worked for moi!!)- I cud go on here apples- u get the point????
3) If u do number 1- then youve already sorted out number 3!!!!! Dont focus on trivial stuff - we aint got time for it!!!!!
4) Well u cant take anyone seriously on a site like this- as youre not physically around them u cant "judge" them- we can only assume- if people are over dramtic- they mite think its normal- point out to them gently!!!

So apples, thats me two dirhams worth!!!!!!

PS Ive taken this as a SERIOUS POST!!!!

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This one is a bit tricky because it depends on the person and the issue. If the issue is a serious one and the person in question is SERIOUSLY impacted by it....then you should consider showing some sensitivity to their problem. By remaining calm and offering them some suggestions on how to resolve their problem, you might be able to provide some relief. OTHER TIMES.....if you KNOW that the issue is a PETTY ONE.....and is being made a HUGE DEAL by someone whom you KNOW has a constant craving for attention and being a drama queen......then you might want to consider not getting too involved.

~~~Missing Someone~~~
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you need to get over yourself for points 1-4 inclusive.

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Poppies…thanks…and yes I was looking for serious replies…so thanks again…:slight_smile:

and oh poppies…I liked your advice about pointer 4…such an intelligent answer…:hugz:

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Redvelvet:
I like you advice for pointer 1..............very diplomatic answer......
Pointer 2: thankfully I don't get mad that much........I think it's more like I get annoyed
and oh my gosh.............it's so tempting to pick on silly statements and give them a piece of your mind........but you are right that's not humble
pointer 4: very hard for me to show sensitivity to overdramatic people but yeah I am working on it.............

Thank you so much............you hit the nail right on the head..............:)

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oh my gosh…you are so right…although first let me get over your name and your hideous avatar…:snooty:…and then I shall get over my questions…:snooty:

p.s. :smack: I did it again…why couldn’t I just laugh it off…I actually laughed at it first…but then wanted to pick on her…:smack:

for god sake........
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Hi appes u here?

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^ don't feel bad, Apples. Sometimes it's well-deserved!

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Poppies…:salam:…I haven’t talked to you in so long

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Hello!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my dear!!!! God Ive missed u!!! What time of day is it ? ( In case u or I mysteriously disappear!!!)

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sorry Walaikum sallams and Juma mubarak!!!

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1) Apples it kinda goes against the point if the person you are ignoring is not aware he/she is being ignored.

However as to the rest try the following :

**2) For Anger management ....pick a time when you are relaxed and undisturbed and write out what makes you mad and why . **
Then figure out if the energy expended on those things are worth the stress of getting mad and irritable. Most often you will find the things that make you mad are easily avoided and/ or removed from your sphere of existence !

Also it helps if you decide what your response should be to the given even if it recurs and play it out in your mind so it becomes a conditioned reflex.

**3) Again takes practice ! People can be silly and ignoring them is the best recourse as some people will never change . **

**4) This is directly related to the relationship you share with the said overly dramatic individual. Therefore your response is based on the nature of that relationship , if it is a close one , this is the time when compromise or adapting to their temperament is called for and again talking it out with the person when they are over the dramatic episode helps . **
If the person is not related best is to avaoid them during their dramatic tantrums.

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no the drama thread was related to drama in the life forum...............not a real life situation

p.s. ooh I get so annoyed when people are driving at 60 miles/hour inside a residential subdivision.........

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