Re: Poeple say..
I don’t think nowadays ppl in most love marriages have actually gone against their parents wishes. Even in my parents generation there was a mix of arranged and love (obviously a lot more arranged tho), nowadays it’s seen as less of a big deal..
Also the issue of ‘who is to blame’ if the marriage fails shouldn’t even come into the equation imo, that’s a pretty lame excuse when at the end of the day we’re all accountable for our own actions and giving our own consent at nikah.
If you feel you could never go to ur parents for help after having had a love marriage or marrying someone they didn’t approve of there can’t be much of a bond there anyway imo.
Divorce rates are usually higher with love marriages (not counting Saudi Arabia which has unbelievably high rates of divorce even tho they are nearly always arranged) because of social and economic factors as well as family pressure that often implies the couple should stay together at any cost. Desis in arranged marriages tend not to be able to seperate without a lot of stigma and difficulty (esp the women).
How many women who have no income or means of financial and/or emotional support let alone the possibilty of never marrying again or having to lose their kids would take that step even if they were miserable in their marriage?