Re: Poeple say..
Love marriages are arranged before the actual shaadi.. the ramp up to the comfort level is equal in both but the only difference is that in love marriages both are comfortable with each other before the actual shaadi.. their thought process, choices etc are upfront... with arrange marriage all that is a surprise after you sign the dotted line.
Re: Poeple say..
I use to think the same but then the guilt factors come in much more. If God forbid your marriage fails you dont know who to turn to or who to blame cuz in most love marriages you have gone against yr family wishes. And apparently the divorce rate in love marriage is higher so i dont know what to believe or not to believe.
Anyway, i had personally prefer an arrange marriage but ofcourse nt a blind one.
I don't think nowadays ppl in most love marriages have actually gone against their parents wishes. Even in my parents generation there was a mix of arranged and love (obviously a lot more arranged tho), nowadays it's seen as less of a big deal..
Also the issue of 'who is to blame' if the marriage fails shouldn't even come into the equation imo, that's a pretty lame excuse when at the end of the day we're all accountable for our own actions and giving our own consent at nikah.
If you feel you could never go to ur parents for help after having had a love marriage or marrying someone they didn't approve of there can't be much of a bond there anyway imo.
Divorce rates are usually higher with love marriages (not counting Saudi Arabia which has unbelievably high rates of divorce even tho they are nearly always arranged) because of social and economic factors as well as family pressure that often implies the couple should stay together at any cost. Desis in arranged marriages tend not to be able to seperate without a lot of stigma and difficulty (esp the women).
How many women who have no income or means of financial and/or emotional support let alone the possibilty of never marrying again or having to lose their kids would take that step even if they were miserable in their marriage?
Re: Poeple say..
I think arranged marriages work - due to parental interference. And blackmail of the related spouse - aka if you hurt my daughter we break your legs - we are comfortable saying that to you upfront cos we are related. 
And if your parents said that to someone of your choice they would laugh and walk off. :shoaby:
I guess your choice - means less involvement from the parentals.
Either way love - is yes you know the person - and it could seem amazing. And with arranged - everyday is a new discovery. And one those could be that you are not compatible! TEEHEE!!!
Re: Poeple say..
You should love someone before the marriage begins, not after. Thus arranged marriages fail. What's the use of an arranged marriage? I think it's because the parent's want grandchildren >.<