Um.. I tried calling you and left a vm. We can start over the whole campaign to get you help while exhausting the resources that we know inside these institutions. Its never easy but its doable, I'm more than 100% sure.
I would love to help her as much as I can on a regular basis and get the word out in my social circle.
But to be 100% honest with you all, she sounds like a scam artist to me.
She is not consistent in the story. First off, 25 years in a pvt. company, then Major General in Pak. Army at the age of 40?
Well I may be wrong and she may be telling the truth but It would make a lot of positive difference if some one like you (SID_NY) can go and meet with the family and report back.
I am asking you because you live right next to them (if NY in your nick means New York).