please help me!

RupayHalwa · December 22, 2009, 6:49pm

back off divorce squad. the problem here is different

angel, first you stay in the room all day as you said, while you thinking no one care about you, other people thinking you dont want to mix up with them and you are so rude and stay in the room like they are not worth talking to. so kindly make yourself friendly as possible.

the other issue about your husband, by denying right at that time of intimacy, you are making him hate you, men doesn’t take this very easy and it hurts them mentally if their wife try to avoid him, shouting stress, anger is result of it. so you making situation worst, there are other ways not to conceive. their are other ways to make him on your side, he may be pressurised to earn more and move somewhere else, you need to discuss slowly with him how you want to live you life in the future, getting pregnant is mostly expected in Pakistani families, but while whatever others say, you both decide when to decide, no body has to tell everyone the details to anyone.

when i got married my mother wanted to have grandchildren asap, even my wife was ok with it, i wasnt so we decide between us, wife did get queries from my mum, i asked her listen and thats it. she did get upset sometime but i told her we we know between us, she doesnt know or has to know, so bear with it. once she done that she was fine.

we did have share of initial post wedding pressure from all around us, both of you have to handle it as this is new situation for everyone around you as well.

with bit of understanding and love, you will be more closer to your husband. with resentment and hate you will make him worst. do whatever in your part to make things simple for him and yourself too.

I am not condoning his attitude, he looks pressurised from all sides too. this is taking toll on him too. so he is also not handling it very well. support him emotionally and morally. it will have good effect on him. at least he is not be pressurised from one side.

Refreshing new opinion, genuine from a mans perspective. Shak, u have some very valid points.