I don't understand how a love merriage can end up like this, but i guess its possible. I can understand why you're so angry, since he did ruin your wedding night. But after a 6yr relationship you should have learned one thing, that communication is key!!!
*Therefore, don't waste you're time here on GS, but lock yourself and your hubby in a room for as long as need be, and TALK IT OUT. Talk about everything, as you would have in you're pre-marriage relationship. Ask him what he expects of you as a wife, and in return what do you expect of him as a husband. *
*As far as the house chores, it is also your responsibility, as you're living in that house. Make an effort to get to know both his parents personally, and cater to them as you would like your husband to do to you parents. *
From what i can see, you had an entirely different picture of marriage, then what it is in reality. Your husband will not ditch his parents for you, sometimes he will need to hang out with his boys because he's a man, and its okay if he askes you do something for his parents because who else is he going to go to.
*If you do not feel loved, TELL HIM. Tell him everything. Because this is your life partner. *
*Never, never, never expect him to automatically understand you, because of your mood, facial expressions, or attitude. He will never know how you feel until you TALK to him. *