Re: please help me!
DA,
1) Tumhari degree chahay engineering main ho...ya medicine main ho...ya computers main ho.........ghar ka kaamon ki taraf bhi dehan daina chahiye.....varna ghar kaisay chalay ga? Listen sweetheart.........tum agar apni saas se door Dubai main bhi rehti......tab BHI tum ko ghar k kaam karnay partay. Ab safai khud to nahin ho gi. Khana khud to nahin pakay ga. Kapray khud to nahin dhulay gain. Right? Think about this.
2) Have you heard of the saying, "Fake it till you make it?" Tumhay thori si ACTING karni hogi. Samajhnay ki koshish karo. Farz karo k tum job kar rahi ho aur tumhay boss nahin acha lagta. Lekin agar tum boss k saath har waqt jhagray karo gi....to woh tumhay nauqri se nikaal de ga. If you want to keep your job, to tumhay apna behavior positive rakhna hoga. Aur in-laws k saath bhi tumhay aisa karna hoga. Agar MIL kehti hain k tumhay kuch karna nahin aata.........to phir tum MIL se kaho k woh tumhay kaam sikhadain. See what I mean?
3) Ghar k jo kaam hain.....un ka tum koi schedule bhi bana sakti ho. For example.....kapray is din dhulain gain.....aur khana kis din pakana hai. Tum apni MIL k saath bhi plan kar sakti ho. Keep your voice calm and try to discuss things. Agar ho sakay to tum apni saas k saath discuss kar sakti ho k ghar k kaamon k kya schedule hona chahiye takay tumhary liye thora sa aasaan hojaye.
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4) ** Zara socho. Agar tumhari koi friend tum se har waqt life ki problems k baaray main complain karti hai.........to tum us se tang aa jaao gi. I know it's hard lekin jitna ho sakay apnay attitude ko positive rakho. Apnay husband k saamnay.....saas k baaray main itna ziyada complain mat kiya karo. Balke phil haal k liye mat complain karo. Aur jaa kar apne husband se baat karo......jhagra nahin........BAAT karo......araam se. Aur khud main thora sa bardaashth paida karna ki koshish karo kyoon k tumhari shaadi JIS KE saath bhi hoti....tumhay problems face karni parti. Har relationship main problems hoti hain, DA.
**5) **Pray namaz and turn to Allah for help. Ask Him to make you stronger and to give you guidance and to resolve your problems.