Re: please help me get over the past!
Gemini the Great nailed it. Elope. Seriously!
If the guy had a different religion, was a bad person overall I would've sided with you dad. However, this is ridiculous. Your religion permits you to marry the person of your choice, so why not do it? You're breaking that guy's heart, and you might be able to move on, but he may never will. What's his fault in all this?
Moreover, I personally like the fragile egos of the people who try to control every deed (even rightful) of the people around them, getting hurt. This is nothing but total BS.
Go ahead and marry. Best of luck!