Re: please help me get over the past!
It was very hard for me to read your post without feeling so sad and sorry for you. I can only imagine the pain you’re going through yourself… parents are human too, sometimes they make mistakes… yes your father wants best for you but he’s being unreasonable in my opinion… just because hes a parent doesnt mean he’s not fallible and just because you’re the child it doesnt mean that you dont know whats best for you and that your decisions arent right… try to get that message across. Pray loads and loads… what about his family? Do they like you and know about you? Try asking him to send a rishta over? You never know… I know of situations where parents were dead set against the notion of the marriage but after meeting the other party’s family they were totally smitten and said yes at the spot. It never hurts to try… do all that you can before giving up for your own peace of mind.
Wish you all the best, and please do not get yourself into any relationship you dont want to be a part of. Saying no is hard, but living an unhappy life is much much harder. Be strong, and stand up for what you want. Good luck! 