I have been married since 2011, my husband. Arrived in us in 2013. Since he is here, he gives me hard time, i try to make it work. Even during my wedding reception on the stage he was saying nasty things to me. For example my cousinf tryed to shake my hand and he said that “he shoke hands with u because he knows you like to shake hands with random men”
I make 80k a year. I have to work long hours. He ask me for allowance and first i gave 200 then 300 then 500 monthly. Then we got into arguements and i said im not giving u any money.
He is a doctor, he has 1 last test to pass and then he can apply for residency. But since he is here he fail 2 times. He stays home, only he work 3 weeks at a gas station then he quit. So for year and half i pay for all expenses. I have paid for 2 exam attempts and will be paying for 3 trasportation expenses. Thest are expensive. As we live in nj but exam is in texas.
He gets angry randomly and breaks my things. He broke my laptop, phone, water pitcher, container. He called my parents and brother and said that i was not virgin on wedding night. My response is that u have been married since 2011 so u waited until end of 2014 to complain? If this was the case then u ar beghairat for staying with me.
He treatens to call my extended family and say similar things. He always says he will divorce me, or he has taken lawyer, the police will come with court papers for me. Threats of divorce have started a month after he came to us. Threats for lawyer and police have started about 2 months before. These threats make me feel as if it is really over, and its not a threat, but nothing ever happens. I told him that i will never initiate divorce, so if u want divorce just do it quick and simple, dont make tamasha.
Now he has final attempt, if he fail then he will lose other parts he has passed. I have paid for this attempt and will pay for transportation as well. He has asked i pay for a 3200 review courses of 1 week. I had lost my job in November and was fortunate to get another in December but it is temptin. For few months. When i have no job, he saif after his exam he will look for other job. I had savings for 6 months but still, i cant depend on him. Anyway i said i cant pay for ur review cohese, then he said i will finalize divorce tomorrow. I told him i cant pay for transportation and review courses. Trurh is i can put on credit card, but i dont want too. I asked, can u prove that u will not divorce me after u pass exam? He said nothing.
Yesterday he randomly come downstairs and yell at me, i was cleaning kitchen cabnets and was sitting on floor with laptop. He started yelling and then stomped on my laptop. It is not working now, since its still under warranty i will get it fixed. After a year and half of all this, i cryed alot. Then he asked me to make dinner. I made dinner and while he was sitting on chair, i pulled his hair a little and left the house to get fresh air. Its first time i did this.
Please no jokes this is serious issue. Should i pay for his course, stay withhim or divorce him.
…his dependability? 
…his loving warmth and kindness 
…errr…or that sexy, smoldering look in his eyes right before that manly swagger of his stomps on laptops and lotas and maybe one day..squirrels and cars. :khatti: But more seriously, OP, what do see in him that is so worth holding in to?