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Based on the information you provided, things are less likely to improve even if he passes the exam this time. The only good thing for you is that you don’t have children now. I don’t know how things will work out legally, if you divorce him, but consult your parents and start planning for life without him.
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I’m sorry but he sounds like a jahil person. What kind of man accuses his wife of dirty things like that?
I reckon he’s slightly jealous of the fact that you are more successful than him and have an actual stead job whereas he is falling behind as he can’t grasp the exams. If this is the case then he needs to get over himself and grow the hell up.
I’m not sure what you should do but his behaviour is quite disgusting.
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I am quoting redvelvet because I completely agree and would like to add that you should not wait for him to divorce you but you should get out of this mess asap. Dont wait, just get out of it. I hope you dont have any kids. He does not sound like a human. Find and marry a human.
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Dear Scary2,
I am deeply grieved by your situation. I can understand how hard an abusive relationship can be to deal with. Based on your description of his general attitude and behavior this man does not look like a civilized, kind and patient person.
The matter is not financial need here. The matter is beyond that and is manifesting in all ways depending on situation. It must be addressed by serious intervention on behalf of both the parties. Include the local counseling services, if the family elders are not able to help. You must be patient and pray. If the behavior continues or gets worst despite all attempts, then I would suggest divorce.
God help you and guide you both.
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Go back and re-read your 1st post. Based on what you wrote, you really can’t figure out whether your should divorce him or not? If your sister or best friend told you all this about her husband…what would you advise her?
You seem bright, you don’t really need advice. Know your worth and divorce this creep before you’re chained to him for life if you end up having a kid.
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You can pay for his education as a token of Good will ONLY if he has some sessions of professional marriage counselor and you see any improvements. Till then, do not pay for his education.
In normal circumstance I’d never advocate for my-money, your-money but here situation is difference and seems like guy need some serious counseling. He is perhaps still stuck in the place he moved from.
As someone mentioned, please move your valuable out of his reach (like important documents etc). In fact if you can, just go to your parents house for 2…3…4 weeks. Just to take a break form the situation and think more clearly.
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I am surprised you haven’t left yet. -___-
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a divorce may be a blessing in disguise tbh
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Where have you been 
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Away. some traveling, thinking, researching, and of course studying!
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So sad to hear this, i have an acquaintance in a similar situation, she really does not have the strength to leave.nor is her family on her side.
You know what is right..please do it for yourself, before it gets worse.
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I would suggest for him to get counseling. If he doesn’t get this act straight then by all means move on. Seriously messed up people :sarc:
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You have your family’s support (something which is very rare).
Divorce this guy. He is using you 100%. Sounds like a real scumbag.
GET RID!!
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If i was you leave him too it. As someone abover suggested gather your valuables documents etc and leave. He clearly has no loyalty towards you and is using you. If he could afford to study medicine in pakistan where he would have had to be thousands in fees surely he should have saved for his professional exams? You shouldnt be a punchbag. Just go. Why r u so afraid? A single life js better then being with a jaahil insaan. All hes going to do is eat away at your confidence and once its gone itl be so much harder for you to make a move
Your family are supporting you and you seem like someone who can function financially also without this so called husband. Like deme said plz use contraception last thing you want is to drag a child into this mess
Good luck. May Allah swt make it easy for you x
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seems that the guy is either really insecure about something or a proper jerk as mentioned by other people here.
usually when men are insecure they start to act like toddlers, throw tantrums and do all of this.
As a last resort, I would suggest that you sit him down and try to talk to him without intimidating him etc. You are his wife if he is going through some hard times he needs you more than ever. You can also choose a professional marriage counseller but chances are that he wont cooperate.
leaving him should be the last option if all else fails. You can bear with him this one more time, and if he doesnt pass then its game over.
Although this precisely might be the reason of his insecurity, that he does not feel good enough to pass the test.
marriage is hard and to keep it going is harder. I dont know why it is easy for people to simply say leave him and move on.
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Report him to USCIS that he married you just for the green card and get him deported.
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Every new thread that has issues with relationship there is always one who says that he/she has low self esteem. Sometimes just saying to the topicstarter who has problems and sometime like this the other one. Please be carefull with that. We are not psychiatrist here…
We cant judge here the reason why he is doing this. Maybe he is just not happy with you and there are tons of reasons. But there is not 1 single valid reason to behave like this. So, get the hell out of his life. U deserve someone better. Take care