Re: Please give me some advice!
Paheli: Thank you for sharing this with me. I would have never known to ask this question! I ll def keep this in mind, if I do decide to pursue this.
I do want to focus on my career but I also want to have kids early myself but the fact that he places this as one of his conditions, it kind of got me thinking. Again thank you so much!
Sara: Here’s a important piece of information you need to find out. Is his green card the 2-year conditional green card OR the 10-year permanent green card? Do not hesitate to ask him to show you his actual green card and look at the expiration date.
If by any chance he has the conditional 2 year green card, then his push for a marriage/baby asap would make total sense. And it should be a HUGE red flag for you. So PLEASE find this info. out before you get any more into this.
Personally, I think the whole thing sounds shady and him already telling you his “conditions”…what you’re going to wear, what language he expects you to speak at home, when to have a baby, when you can go back to work etc…:hinna: I think these are major red flags that you’re not considering. Given the fact that you’re educated and want to work on your career for a while before devoting all your time to motherhood…I don’t think you’re the right match for a guy who’s ready for a baby within a year. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your desire to get married…but from what you’ve written so far, I don’t think this is the best choice.