cutie1
July 15, 2010, 4:17pm
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Cutie, you need to talk to YOUR PARENTS, first. And then think about if there are any trusted relatives (aunt/uncle/grandparent) who can help you and reason with your parents on your behalf. Someone with some influence.
What if your cousin thinks you’re only teasing/joking? It could depend upon the manner in which you expressed your feelings. He may have mistook you for being shy or playing hard to get…who knows? Be firm with him…and hopefully he’ll get it.
If him and your parents don’t back down…then tell his parents that you’re not interested in the rishta. I just hope that your parents will not give HIS parents the false idea that you are happy with this rishta. That’s why it’s also important for his family to know about how you feel. Your parents my push for this rishta and never tell his parents the truth. And if you see things heading in that direction…speak up. Hopefully, his parents will have more izzat/self-respect/pride than to get their son married to a girl who is openly rejecting them. Your parents (as angry as they may be) won’t disown you. And your relatives…might get their egos wounded…but they don’t pay your bills…are they worth sacrificing your life/future for? No! They’ll find someone for their son.
In our entire khaandan, no girl so far has opposed to any proposals confirmed by parents, so my parents expect me to do the same and thinks its would be a great insult if i disagree to marry him.