Playing the field

Lifestyle Relationships
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Scenerio:

Person A is looking to get married. Thus Person A strikes out to find a suitable mate . This is defined as playing the field.

Person A meets Persons B, C, and DD. As Person A is playing the field, conversations are struck up with B, C and DD. The situation progresses with each person at a different rate and pace with different levels of chemistry and interactions.

Then Person A makes the choice of who to choose.

The question is ladies and gents should Person A:

  1. Tell the one he wishes to be with about the other two
  2. Tell the other two he is marrying someone else
  3. Stay friends with the other two

Is Person A cheating on all three at the same time, or is it just normal practice.

I have kept the discussion gender neutral to get a better reading of how GS would react if it was a woman or a man involved in playing the field.

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Re: Playing the field

well it depends on the levels of 'interaction' and if person 'B', 'C', and 'DD' are aware that there relationship with person A is commitment free

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If you tell the other two that they bring very "little" to the table and that you much prefer to marry "Double D"..........they'll slap you.......but gladly get out of your way. :P

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Re: Playing the field

Lets play the scenerio out that each person knew that Person A is looking for a long term commitment and marriage but nothing explicitly was stated to the other three until Person A had made the decision.

Considering it a mutual understanding but nothing said to confirm such suspicions.

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Re: Playing the field

as long all the people know each others intentions…everything is fair.

if B, C, and D know about A’s intentions…(get married), then they should be aware that they are “looking” to see who is more suitable. In that sense, A shouldn’t play the field in secret…that way there will be less heartbreak. Regardless of their choice… someone will be hurt no matter how nice or true they were…but it will be easier to be on good terms with them later.

not cheating unless A is sleeping with one, and being all sharif with the other one

should keep everything on the same level…see who you like better and don’t drag the others on a string when the choice is made.

of course..haven’t seen this in real life yet :aq: everyone nowadays seems to be cheating one way or another… emotional, physical… whatever.

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LMAO! You see right through me....its creepy.

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Re: Playing the field

well if its truly a 'mutual understanding' then

2. Tell the other two he is marrying someone else

and no its not cheating

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deja vu??

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^Hardly.....I've never been through the situation.

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No thats not what I meant.......I could have sworn I just saw the exact same post in the blog section, I even posted under it..........and its gone

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Re: Playing the field

Rules of the game require that you file fumios los chicas separately, marked private and confidential.

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Re: Playing the field

Now lets change it up. Consider Person A a girl who is dating various guys to meet the one.

By the way when I am state "Progresses different with different people" that implies dating and romantic inclinations. Not just chatting in a public wedding

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I don't know what they should do, but they certainly don't tell the other guys what they are up to. Until they finally decide to marry one guy - based on all the materialistic characteristics they sternly deny here - they keep playing the field and keep it zipped. I have honestly seen ladies who didn't give up the 'quest' even after getting engaged. "The right to choose", they call it. Two cases I have seen where the engagement was called off, and the ladies moved on to greener pastures. Sad but true.

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Re: Playing the field

^ if guys are doing that...why not a girl? i mean..her intentions is to get married...same as the guy.... so should she go out and meet guys and play the field.... or stay home and make chai for the guys to come over and look her over???

if we are in the modern era CM...as I can tell by ur posts :)... then lets leave person A neutral..and same thing should apply to guys and girls who are looking to get married

  1. be honest & let ur intentions know to whoever you are meeting/dating
  2. pick one...and don't cheat
  3. live in khabi khusi, khabi gham
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Re: Playing the field

people who believe in greener pastures = cows...and we really shouldn't marry them in the first place

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Now that it how it should be. Add sammiches there and it gets better, ideal more like.

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Re: Playing the field

Ah but that is the beauty of desis. They do discriminate in what is acceptable for men to do and what is acceptable for women to do. Its intriguing how even females accept the gender distinctions with relative ease.

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Re: Playing the field

^I effn don’t accept…hence the chaapls :hinna:

but I do make great sandwiches… teek hai..a little arsenic in the future rishta wanabee’s chai tray… :aq:

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Re: Playing the field

Tell the other 2 who he wishes to marry.
Nopes...not cheating as long as they all knew he was searching for other likely candidates for long term commitment.

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Ah, nothing like a fish, arsenic and hot sauce sandwich. My favourite :k: