Platonic Relationship, can men and women be just friends

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If you arent married or engaged, you are just friends.

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All girls i am friends with have feelings for me! that is a big ego booster.

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Maybe it had to do with the intimacy that comes from being best friends with someone? In the link, I think he's referring to more social/hang out friends with whom you may discuss serious topics about the world and your life, but possibly end up hanging out in groups.

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Well..i do have female friends. But i clearly have certain boundary set. And they are well aware of that and vice versa of course. But if my wife had issue with befriending with them..i will limit my interaction.

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well....basically i wasnt looking for a short term relationship...and more so he belongs to a different caste...so i told him indirectly tht i dnt wanna get into an inter caste relationship.

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Women just don’t know what we men think :slight_smile:

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I have male friends. But there is a very strict line of behaviour that I have set from day one. They never crossed mine, I never cross theirs. Before marriage I used to get my father to meet them and know them ( all my good friends male and female ) after marriage , mine as well as theirs , I encourage spouses to be there when we converse , dont want anyone feeling left out !

But if you ask me if platonic relationships exist, they do , but only and only with very strict self control , otherwise sorry but they dont last for very long ..

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They are not my husband. Isn't that enough reason to friendzone someone? I have no interest in their personalities or looks so my mind is made up from the moment I meet them.

That 1% will have to be extremely charming and intelligent to get my attention. I don't know how to say it but I don't have that attraction thing with men where my heart would skip a beat if I saw an attractive dude.

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So if you werent married it would be a lot more than 1% ?

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Maybe. This would depend on how I felt about my single status.

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^

I hope your husband is also in the 1%

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I think they can exist ! I have female friends and my parents know about it . I have seen live examples here in Pakistan. So it all depends on one's maturity, upbringing and education . Neither all guys have bad character neither all girls are angels .

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I know a girl who actually made fun of anybody that didn't believe that men and women can be friend. But then even she ended up falling in love with her guy friend of a few years who married another woman. As much as we want to believe that men and women can have platonic friendships, one or both will eventually take the plunge in falling in love with the other. And no even if one is in a committed relationship, it doesn't stop anything since there are so many instances of married people having affairs with their wife's friend or the wife falling in love with her guy friend.

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according to life1, there are many married couples who are juz franships. so yes. man woman and tiger can be frand if situation is right.

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Shania Twain and Mutt Lange had such a wonderful marriage and I thought they would never get a divorce. They looked like life partners but stupid Mutt Lange had an affair with Shania's best friend and destroyed his own marriage. You would think the wife's friend is off limits and the husband would see her as a sister but apparently not.

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I think it's definitely possible. If you know your boundaries and you have a sense of what is right to say/do what is not. I've made a pakistani bhai as well as indian bhai from different background to me. Some even of different religion to me. We share similar outlook on some topics and on life. My pakistani bhai lives in Karachi. We never met and maybe never will since I am from different country and background but we have a platonic relationship and understanding.

Similarly I have male friends in real life and it always been platonic and never was there a hint of crossing any lines.
Maybe it's easier online to have such a relationship but it can happen in real life if one is on same page.

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I think so, if both are clear about it, but best friends might be tricky... because the more time you invest with someone chances are one of them will start seeing the friendship as something more. I've rarely seen a case where this hasn't happened, and often it's sad because the friendship is no longer the same.
But if both parties are in a relationship with someone else and their friendship is not as emotional then yes it can work.

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it's possible. I have a few male friends I"d never sleep with.

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and the others?