Can heterosexual men and women ever be just friends? the question remains unanswered. Daily experience suggests that non-romantic friendships between males and females are not only possible, but common.”men and women live, work, and play side-by-side, and generally seem to be able to avoid spontaneously sleeping together. However, the possibility remains that this apparently platonic coexistence is merely a facade, an elaborate dance covering up countless sexual impulses bubbling just beneath the surface.
New research suggests that there may be some truth to this possibility ”that we may think we are capable of being just friends with members of the opposite sex, but the opportunity (or perceived opportunity) for romance is often lurking just around the corner, waiting to pounce at the most inopportune moment.
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Friendships grow naturally, over time; from being in the same proximity; from having shared interests, goals, activities, etc.
Friendships are never actively pursued.
Its rare to see 'natural', genuine friendships between men and women. Most are just based on good vibes. In many of them there is somewhere an aspect of sexual/romantic pursuit and/or assessing the other as a potential mate.
I always say that if men had the ability to tell if a woman would never be interested in him..the number of "friendships" between men and women would drop significantly.
Short answer: Yes they are possible. But they are rare.
Its also important to see the gendered angle here, regardless of how much it offends the politically correct, the feminists, and the manginas.
Men are, on average, more interested in their female friends than vice versa. For instance if a guy has 10 female friends, chances are he'll find 6 of them attractive/acceptable. The average woman on the other hand might only find 1 out of 10 of her male friends attractive.
What this means is that its easier for women to stay just friends. It means that women are more cool about being just friends with men.
Another thing to consider. Men are often told that in order to date women they have to be friends first with them. There is a misconception that women need to like men as good friends first in order to want sex/relationships with them. This is obviously a myth and it leads to a phenomenon known as "Friend Zone" which is primarily a male lament.
There are many other angles to look at this topic.
Re: Platonic Relationship, can men and women be just friends
Only if the guy is undeniably unattracted to the girl, and even then…maybe. 
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They can be..
However, best friends..a man and a women who meet up often..chat on a daily basis...share every details of life....can never remain best friends only i think
at one point .either or both will start feelings
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No.
Re: Platonic Relationship, can men and women be just friends
They can be..
However, best friends..a man and a women who meet up often..chat on a daily basis...share every details of life....can never remain best friends only i think
at one point .either or both will start feelings
So what happens when one of them or both of them have spouses, is it okay for them to play with temptations as long as they don't act on their feelings.
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I dont think any married person would be able to spend that much time with another male/female...
A best friend before marriage and after marriage is different....my opinion
Re: Platonic Relationship, can men and women be just friends
I dont think any married person would be able to spend that much time with another male/female...
A best friend before marriage and after marriage is different....my opinion
What if they are friends and colleagues and often have so called casual lunches alone.
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That is fine...i have lunch with colleagues on daily basis...
But our friendships stay during working hours .. Its not like i will text them..guys i mean.. Every evening or weekend.
casual friendship between man n women does certainly exist and i feel it is important..
Where i think the feelings comes is when the time spent together become essential and no bews of each other irks you
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That is fine...i have lunch with colleagues on daily basis...
But our friendships stay during working hours .. Its not like i will text them..guys i mean.. Every evening or weekend.
casual friendship between man n women does certainly exist and i feel it is important..
Where i think the feelings comes is when the time spent together become essential and no bews of each other irks you
You have lunch with colleagues in a group setting or sometimes just two people.
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Depends on who is available.
But i.must say..i am.comfortable with the alone lunch because non are muslim or asian and i am engaged
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Depends on who is available.
But i.must say..i am.comfortable with the alone lunch because non are muslim or asian and i am engaged
So the stat of over 50 percent affairs starting at work is based on muslims and Asians only, or maybe whites have different anatomies..hmmmm. I wish my partner was as understanding as yours.."Darling its okay for you to go on lunch date with girls alone, as long as they are not muslims or Asians."
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it is jst a personal comfort level... i dont feel 100% at ease with muslims guys when alone.
But that does not mean i dont have muslim guy friends that i meet.
note that i was trying to explain my point of view on the phrase 'man and women can never be friends'
But seems like you are talking about trust level between partners
One of these again
Platonic Relationship, can men and women be just friends
Not according to Harry....just ask Sally
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it is jst a personal comfort level... i dont feel 100% at ease with muslims guys when alone.
But that does not mean i dont have muslim guy friends that i meet.
note that i was trying to explain my point of view on the phrase 'man and women can never be friends'
But seems like you are talking about trust level between partners
I used to think like you before, not anymore..I am in a very commited relationship and love my partner dearly and would never ever cheat on her but I worked in very close proximity with a very attractive girl, it was all very platonic we discussed current affairs, politics religion, philosophy etc, soon after that we started sharing personal things, she has shared with me stuff that she never shared with any one else and vice versa, when I go to work I am the best I can be, in a nice suite shaved showered and groomed, at home I am casual and sloppy, I kind of feel that I emotionally cheated on my partner.
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Hmm ok
well i am the type of person who never give that much energy into relationship unless they are important...
I hardly discuss my personal life with colleagues.
We joke we gossip and talk work..after 6 they dont even cross my mind.
Of course i missed their company if they are absent at work but that is just missing a good ambiance.
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Hmm ok
well i am the type of person who never give that much energy into relationship unless they are important...
I hardly discuss my personal life with colleagues.
We joke we gossip and talk work..after 6 they dont even cross my mind.
Of course i missed their company if they are absent at work but that is just missing a good ambiance.
Most raging fires start with a small spark, I never thought I will end up feeling this way. it never was my intention.
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I guess i have never felt this way so far so i cant comment
will you be able to confess this to your partner?
women are proid of the fact that the partner will only discuss 100% of his life happening with them.and no one else.
They get hurt to know someone else has reached the same level in partners life