planning contraception methods ahead of wedding

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Yeah I was just joking. Still wouldn't rely on withdrawal though.
Watch The Inbetweeners for how to put a condom on without killing the romance!

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No.....it doesn't.

Imagination isn't always accurate. In reality, you're sharing your body with someone you love and vowed to spend the rest of your life with....that should overtake any "unromantic" feelings.

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The OP said they are not comfortable using a condom quite clearly, I think it would be nice if people respected that instead of joking and what not :rolleyes:

Paris, the pill as someone said will help with acne and hair problem. I’d suggest that you start at least a few months before your wedding to see how you react to it :slight_smile: ..

No need to start with a method which you’re not comfortable with for whatever reasons.

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Can't believe I'm writing this on GS but OP look into Durex Thin Feel/Real Feel..

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who’s joking and mocking?

I can understand real concerns about taking hormonal birth control, not everyone is comfortable with it (I certainly wasn’t). nor does everyone want to have kids right after getting married, and well if you’re gonna abstain from sex, what’s the point of marriage?

so what’s left? Condoms. And people need to get over the mental block of using a condom. Someone upthread said that you can’t miss what you never did…

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Clearly for the OP; Birth control pills > Condoms.

I’m not sure anyone here is or will be able to help her overcome whatever mental blockage it is you think she has nor do I want to engage in any discussion about who’s missing what or not :disgust:

:waves:

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Op,

Don'tchya now think it would have been a lot easier to have just talked to a doctor than asking on the forum? The doctor wouldn't have have insisted upon condom-use or questioned things like "experience" and would have gone through various options.

So, talk to your doctor. You can also choose to implement condoms after having the experience of not using them. If I recall correctly, your husband is in Pak, right? So, I think you should.....just in case....buy the variety of condoms that best meet your needs....and take them with you to Pak when you get married. So, that way you will have more than one (pill, condom, etc) option for birth control.

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Condom is like taking shower with raincoat on.

Pills have some side effects. Blood clotting in legs etc.

Withdrawal may leave one or other unhappy/unsatisfied.

Too early to use coil. They are for longer duration.

Inject-able hormone under the skin of arm (long acting) is not so bad choice.

Pessaries/diaphragm are temporary but 'can be' painful...for both.

Only sure way without physical side effect is abstinence.

Lets just not marry or if married live like so many married couples.

So many men sleep on the couch so many days days in a year.

OK seriously:

For early marriages both pills or condoms are good choices. it gives better control on both partners when to have a child.

Physical satisfaction maybe, but romance does not really get affected by any method used.

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planning contraception methods ahead of wedding

I think you should just call the GP and get the next available appt, even if it's a few weeks away. Discuss the different types of birth control you can use. I used the pill for about a year after marriage (2 different kinds), YAZ and Loestrin. I had no major side effects on YAZ, and it actually decreased my excess hair. Loestrin didn't go well with my body and I had a lot of breakthrough bleeding. So it's best for you to start something a few months ahead of time so your body can adjust and if need be, you can change it.

After marriage, if the pill is not working for you, you can discuss other methods with your husband.

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in my initial post, i have mentioned that i intend to go to the gp, but while i wait for the next available appointment (which is still not given to me so i changed my surgery) i wanted help from the forum. The whole point of coming on this forum is for people to ask anything to an unbiased group of people and that too anonymously. Whether we ask about relationship , health or even food recipe .. everything is available outside of his forum (ask friends and family or simply google), but we still choose to write here because hey...that is what forum are for :)

i will be in pak for 2 months and i am not comfortable with buying protection myself , espc not now. However, there is absolutely no issue for him to buy them there.

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there are 'a first' for
everthing in life...now you know that they are some people who are not comfortable with condoms :)

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right, after a very angry call to my current surgery..i finally managed to get an appointment in 2 weeks time but with a male doctor :bummer:

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First of all congrats ur getting married.
And hun dont worry a doctor is a doctor even if he is male. Just keep this in mind.
Well my experience. I started to take pills 4 months prior to wedding so that i knew if it went good for me. We first used condoms and pills. I know sounds strange but was good because the condom broke. I would suggest you to start using pills, there are side effects but if you dont smoke and dnt have severe health issues it shouldnt be a problem. The best "side effect" for me was i got beautiful skin. Good luck.

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OP, I know that forums are for people to ask about various topics to get an unbiased opinion. But even on a forum, some responses can be a bit invasive or make one feel uncomfortable. I guess if you've been on a particular forum for a long time, you kinda have an idea of which threads are likely to create a stir or get a bit messy. If you can handle it, then more power to you as you're braver than me. I read some of the former posts in the thread and felt that there was some tension, hence I thought it would perhaps you would have felt more comfortable to just wait and ask your GP as you wouldn't have to 'explain' your personal preferences to a doctor ...nor would the Dr. ask or press you to explain your preferences...and that it would overall be without awkwardness. As for the condoms...the reason I suggested purchasing them where you live is because I thought there might be a lack of variety in Pak....I could be wrong. But this is b/w you and your fiance...you should do what makes you feel comfortable. Best wishes with the wedding.

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Withdrawal isnt the safest option because accidents can happen. The pill can help but there are side effects, iud's have their own side effects and they can fall out too and well you guys dont prefer condoms so rule that out. The best bet is for you to talk to the GP and figure out what works for you both. I didnt have any side effects from the birth control but they are a pain with dosage instruction.

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Nm

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On the NHS, you can also go to a sexual health clinic near you or community contraceptive clinics. Go on the NHS website to find one near you. That should also take care of the male doctor problem as well.

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What did you want to post?

Unmarried desi girl spotted at sexual health clinic

:fatee: lol parents’ worst nightmare

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I posted a few links and an educational yt video on pros and cons of different contraceptives along with general advice but I don’t know if its too much and besides im not a married woman and i have no experience with this. I’ve used the birth control pill for irregular periods and had no issues with it. It became a really long post and i know my long posts can be annoying.

I know someone who is a Pakistani hijabi doctor who works in a sexual health centre. She only came from Pakistan a few years ago and likes working there. People can be more open minded than we think. People come with all types of issues. How would parents see that happen..or how would an aunty/uncle spot it unless they are near the sexual health clinic themselve?They always
have hidden entrances and exits for people. Plus just wear a hoodie and sunglasses..no one will be able to tell. Worse comes to worse just say you were accompanying your non desi friend who didn’t want to be alone and needed support.

Better than waiting 2 weeks for a GP. They probably know more than the GP and how to explain it +being less judgemental.

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^I was joking (half) :smiley:

I don’t think the ‘average’ auntie will bother looking for an alternative reason apart from the worst one possible.. and they’ll somehow be driving past at just the right moment lol.. Have you seen ‘Bend it like Beckham’?

When I was younger I remember one girl we knew being gossiped about because horror of horrors she was seen walking home from school with a boy and giving him chocolate.. Apparently that equated to her being ‘loose’ as well :rolleyes:

Of course it’s wrong but reason and logic sometimes don’t occur to these people..