Re: Pk guys who married "foreign" born&bred: pls comment
He seriously laughs it off. Sometimes he just sits there and he'll try, hes a sweet guy, its just what am I supposed tosay? wish we joked around a bit more? its not the desi, english issue. im really desi other than teh language which i speak perfectly aswell. Its the overall u know; express myself. And well, enjoying differnt kinds of things, talking about stuff for example: we talk about different kinds of things, and I get teh feeling maybe he wouldve wanted a more paki kind of girl whose into the things paki girls are into; cause the truth is, maybe since hes been acting aloof, i ve been noticing that i feel like ive missed out on the companionship that i wouldve gotten had it been a guy from here. anyhow, astaghfirullah, but truth is, desi guy speaking english, talking about stuff i talk about, grew up on the same stuff, joke and understand, caught myself suddenly noticing them :( it sucks.
Its the "what if" factor. Truth is that even if you had married a western bred boy 10 years ago, your relationship would have probably settled into an unexciting phase by now anyway, it takes 2 people to revive the relationship ball and keep it bouncing!
For some reason, your comments have struck a chord with me, I don't really know why, but I am quite saddened by your situation.
You know, talk to your husband about this, he sounds like a nice man. Tell him how you feel. Come to an agreement to spend time together, say 1 day a month, doing what you want (SNOWBOARDING!), then the next month spend a day doing an activity that he likes.
I can totally understand how he feels happy and liberated spending time with his friends, bcos I feel the same when I spend time with mine, and I expect that my husband feels free on his boys nights out too. The thing is sometimes you have to ESCAPE from being bound to eachother all the time, its quite refreshing.
Have some me time.
Now I think I have totally missed the point about companionship, but never mind!