Re: Pk guys who married "foreign" born&bred: pls comment
thanks for the advice.
ARE THE GUYS Just too CHICKEN EXPRESSING THEMSELVES, why am I not surprised... I doubt there arent any guys from that category on here.
Prove us wrong boys, comment :)
I don't have any personal experience in the matter, but I think it may be just that your marriage has lost some of its novelty over the years, and you might assign the cause to language/culture differences, when in actuality, it may be that you're in a rut and need some adventure.
By virtue of being a woman, you will never be on the same plane as a guy. And perhaps you don't want to be compromising anymore because you've been compromising for years to make up for the culture difference or it may be in your nature to do so, and don't feel reciprocated. I don't know what you are referring to when you're talking about compromises, but do you think a guy that grew up the same place as you would act much different? It all depends on personality.
Some people grow up here but a few years into the marriage, the couple looks like its from back home- very paternalistic structure, mother doting on kids and letting herself go, father is distant breadwinner. The problem may lie in communication, but it's not so much the language barrier as it is that nobody wants to talk about the relationship, not white people, not black people, not asians, not brown people. So if you are feeling a bit down about the marriage, try not to find reasons that are beyond your control, but those that are, like doing something different and reigniting the sparks.
thanks, nice advice. I thought about this, but its not it. Maybe somewhat, but theres been distance lately, and its just feeling awkward. AND, I feel jealous when I see all the lovely urdu dialogue happening and his laughter, knowing that its not so easy for us to get that simple "random laugh", for whatever reason. Its not like we fight, alhamdullilah, and we dont disagree much either: its a step past that. Like when I talk to guys from here, i feel like i can communicate easier, express myself, etc. Maybe the relationship does need something extra, but its just me, ive been feeling a little aloof lately. :( :(