Pissed off

[Chameli420]

@Straight_up

In times like this, I am glad I am a little full of myself, it doesn’t bother me one bit what SIL is doing to hubby or what BIL is doing to FIL, etc. All that is none of my concern. Just kidding.

On a serious note, Chameli, I agree with Mirch, learn to be happy. Do you really realise that you are making a huge thing out of absolutely nothing?

I have 2 brothers and they’re not married yet but I feel like I can count on them 100%, so if I ever call my brother and ask him to keep (one of my 5 kids with prayer names, let’s say Asr :halo:), because I have to deal with a family issue, i.e. get hubby or something, then I kind of expect him to be there for me. This is more important than a birthday party!!!

Now if my brother’s wife is upset that she has to cancel the birthday party to keep my son Asr - then that’d create very negative feelings in my heart. Probably because I think birthday parties for full grown adults are stupid. But that’s my opinion and what I am trying to tell you here is that - every single person is different, and looks at situations differently. So - be the better person. Don’t complain about your SIL, I frankly don’t seee why you should on the first place. Trust me, you’ll be better off.

I like how you don’t have a problem with the boy, just how the adults are making you feel. But this is where you need to look at yourself and think highly of yourself, once you start feeling better about yourself, you’ll forget about others.

Well I think u missed my point here.I am not against taking care of the kid when needed. I am just saying that when a person needs a couple to take care of her child, shouldnt she be asking both persons? and lets assume that she is too busy,unformal whatever to ask her bhabi and thinks that its enough asking her brother. but then what the heck does she think of her bhabi when she tell her brother about her husband’s arrival from Pakistan and telling him that he shouldnt be telling anyone else about it. So she doesnt wanna share a good news with a person but is expecting her to take care of her kid. Thats exactly what I have reacted on!No more,no less.
Cancelling the birthday dinner with our friends is somethig I felt I had to do cuz she didnt want others to know that her husband is coming and hubby’s friends would find it odd that his only sibling was not there at his birthday dinner while the nephew came!!anyways the birthday wasnt a big deal.I just get provoced when she treats me as I have to go along when needed but she cant even include me in the good news!!