I really feel like saying no to take care of the kid and also tell SIL how weird she is being. But I also know that it would be a very wrong time to do so cuz she could turn this into a situation where I am trying to ruin her happiness which I am not!!! I also feel that it would be too mean to say no to the kid cuz SIL just wants to get rid of him when her husband arrives and my husband already knows that we don’t have other plans for that day and I know that he will be spending time with his newphew even if I say that I am not feeling well. I have already told my husband that I really felt like saying NO to have the kid over cuz of SIL’s behaviour so I know that he will figure out if I try to get rid of it now!
Its just the whole stupid situation!!!most of all I am angry at hubby cuz he doesn’t even have the gutts to tell him sister that it would be nice if she told me cuz I will be happy for her. How stupid can men be!!!
I have decided to tell my FIL once he calls and mentions that SILS husband is coming – that oh well SIL hasn’t told me and just leave it there. Perhaps he can say a few words to his stubborn daughter. Cuz my husband isn’t gonna do that for ages yet!!
Look, chameli . feel free to take whatever you road you want to take, but I would suggest you drop the matter. I mean she's just not telling you stuff. She's not hurting you, she's not being mean . She's just dumping the kid on you- which you would gladly take, I gather, if she reciprocated your generosity. If you don't want to take care of the kid, then just say you're busy. But that's the most I would do.
Point #2. My brother is married. ANd honestly I don't really tell my bhabi too much either about what's going on my life. And I've known my bhabi since we were babies. The reason is is I'm still trying to get my own life settled (which is a sensitive part of every girl's life), while my SIL has it all made. And plus, no matter how close you are to your SIL, she's is not your sister or mom where she has to report everything to you.
It's obvious that your SIL is going through a lot of stress right now-- She apparently didn't have a happy first marriage I gather (b/c her marriage would make her hubby her son's step dad), she's a single mom, trying to get through life and get settled. She's has enough on her plate then worrying about what her bhabi is thinking about her.
If you don't want to take care of the kid, then that's your right and tell her that your busy; if you do, then do it out of SINCERE GENEROSITY with NO STRINGS ATTACHED> but please stop causing unnecessary drama by complaining about how she doesn't tell you stuff (of all the things in the world you could complain of!!!!!)about her life. It's her life, if she wants to keep it private, then it's her right.