what about season and weather and other practical reasons? don't those influence wedding dates too? esp. in places like karachi where summers are miserable with loadshedding and the heat?
we picked ours for august 5th because it was A) a sunday (with the monday off) and getting married on sunday was cheaper than saturday! and B) a long weekend, so monday was off and people wouldn't be rushing to work the next day, and C) we wanted an outdoor wedding and july is usually too hot.
ditto to SGC ^ Thats how I thought also !! Even though my mom was shocked/embarassed that the** bride **herself actually suggested a date !!! eeekk...I LOVE Fall/Autumn. I think its the most beautiful season, so we picked ours on Oct 12 (sunday) also because its a Long weekend (thanksgiving) and I think its Columbus day for folks in the States. That way guests would be able to stay later and not have to worry about work the next day and since you're spending soo much money on a wedding anyway - at least make the most of it !!! The weather was perfect, no rain and it wasn't that cold either.
You lucked out SGC, I thought Sunday would be cheaper also but because we were making ppl work on a holiday we ended up paying the same amount as a Saturday ! But it was reasonable so that was alrite..
I got married on a sunday. Since it was in the summer and we only had 6 months in advance to book, the date we were given was either take it or leave it.
meenz, aww, that's no good but i'm glad it was still reasonable! here long weekends are generally considered prime weekends to marry on so everything's open and everyone's working and their policy of lower rates on every sunday thru the year still applies.
OMG!! i didn't know the wedding date was fixed on Brides periods.. i bet it doesn't happen anymore.... More than the periods i believe the weather, siblings exams , halls etc etc matters...
but as read abt Shay... i think the date should b faaar away from the periods cz even my mood swings during those few days...errghhh.
Well they can TRY at least. This is how it works if your day is for instance 17th of the month add 7-10 days to that. Usually they try to set the date the very next week.
On a separate note as u mentioned I know a friend in Pakistan who once said that she adjusts her period days if she has to travel or if someone's wedding is coming. To get 'em early she would eat food that is generally hot & do the opposite to delay her periods. I know I go crazy on coffee sometimes & it works for me.
oh really? so what foods delay your period and vice versa?
Dry fruit, i.e., almonds, cashew nuts, pine-tree nuts bring your period faster but with crazy-cramps and worst moodswings! Oh mango achaar apparently also brings your period faster.
oh my god im pretty much screwed. wedding date is on the first day of a month.. usually i get my periods on the 18th or 19th of a month so i thought it would have been perfect. but mine is delayed this time!!!!!!!!!!!!! i just gotta attempt to delay it for the next 7 months i guess eh?? so coffee??? okay! plus i have crazy schooling for the next few months so inshallah i'll be stressed and incur further delays
oh my god..what is this world coming to... i am praying for stress!!! LOL
I think its kind of wierd that the date is choosen based on "period days" My wedding date is yet to be fixed and if anyone asks me about any of this period business i would be upset. I understand if the grl gets bad cramps (me being one of them) but there are countless medicines sold for menstural cramps. Askng the grl specifically kinda sounds gross to me thats no ones business. I had no idea whatsoever that some wedding dates are/were chosen this way!!
Let nature take its course grls there's no need to try to delay things like this or disturb ur cycle if it happens it happens if not then i guess ure lucky bt there are so many other things to do and plan the last thing on ur mind should be worrying about delaying ur natural cycle.
If you read about or visit a doctor u will know that its actually unsafe to do something like this. If you purposely delay ur natural cycle it takes a few months for ur natural cycle to go back to its natural (old) way. I know women do that before going to Hajj which is completely understandable but it shouldnt be done just for the heck of it. Some grls may get their normal cycle but once messed with it some ppl never go back to a "fixed date" menstural cycle. Some grls even skip a month or two once messed with it and thats not a good thing at all. dont get me wrong I'm not scaring anyone I'm just informing you so u know.
^Yeh I agree that you shouldnt purposely change your cycle just because of your wedding day. But I believe you should try to plan the wedding date around your period so you don't have to worry about the mood swings or cramps. Yes, there is medicine sold for cramps but why worry about that if you don't have to. Wouldn't you rather just not worry about a period at all, one less thing to stress over on your big day?
For my wedding, we made sure that both of our immediate families could take off from work for atleast a week because the wedding was in KHI so they would have to fly from NY to KHI. In addition to that, we made sure that for the valima, there was an available date for the hall. That was it. My mom did ask me about my period and I told her "it has a mood of it's own and will come when it wants to, so please don't plan the dates according to that."
At the same time I was hoping and hoping a lot that I wouldn't get it till after my honeymoon.
Mine was planned according to my husband's much dreaded usmle and his school. I actually made the poor guy move up his exam to atleast one week before which he was not very happy about but it worked out well in the end. It was June, mine and his siblings were all off from college, I found the perfect hotel on the date I was looking for and I wanted us to have atleast a couple of weeks to spend together before his school started.
So basically, I was the one who set the date because my parents had left it for me to decide.
i agree with Rsheikh comepletely. whats the big deal if u happen to have ur period in those days.. not a good idea to try to delay and stuff. and usually there are so many other MUCH more things that u need to keep in mind while setting a date.
