I know someone who is physically disabled.. he cant walk properly.. his body is deformed.. he suffered from polio in the mid 70’s
but he is the most handsomest guy i know.. and the most intelligent.. he has charm and charisma.. anyone who spends more than 5 minutes with me is bound to be captured by his purity, his thoughts.. his whole view on life..
people get scared of him in the beginning.. as he looks abnormal.. but he has more guts than a ‘normal’ person… hes educated, funny, never bores u and he doesnt rely on anyone..
newaaaays… hes just been engaged… and the question is… is it wrong? is it torture for the gal whose marrying him? (i dont know the girl… i only know him).. what do u think?
its not wrong... he has a right to live his life.. put urself in his situation... if u were unfortunately disabled.. wouldnt u wanna have a nice hubby and wanna live a regular life??
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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
I know someone who is physically disabled.. he cant walk properly.. his body is deformed.. he suffered from polio in the mid 70's
but he is the most handsomest guy i know.. and the most intelligent.. he has charm and charisma.. anyone who spends more than 5 minutes with me is bound to be captured by his purity, his thoughts.. his whole view on life..
people get scared of him in the beginning.. as he looks abnormal.. but he has more guts than a 'normal' person... hes educated, funny, never bores u and he doesnt rely on anyone..
newaaaays... hes just been engaged... and the question is... is it wrong? is it torture for the gal whose marrying him? (i dont know the girl... i only know him).. what do u think?
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i think it deoends on the girl. if she is of more social-conscience, the kind who put a lot of significance on others opinions, then this guy is in for a long-bumpy-rough-ride :~). no matter how handsome and intelligent he is, his disability still can be a huge issue. but then thatz just my opinion. :~)
In my humblest opinion, i don’t think it should be “torture” for the girl because i am assuming that she knows about his physical condition and was aware of it when she agreed to accept the proposal. (Or am i mistaken regarding that?). On the surface, by your statements in the first post, i understand that he is (hopefully) an intelligent, articulate, and kind person. i think the girl is pretty fortunate if all those qualities are in him. :k:
i don’t know, maybe i’m wrong. i really am not certain. What sort of qualities does the girl possess? He sounds like a rather intelligent person with a solid, positive personality - what if she is the one who is lacking in the personality area? Then it’s him whom i would feel sorry for.
i think that… yes the fact his body is physically deformed is pretty sad. But you know what’s worse - what if his personality was deformed as well. Someone i know, very very very well, in my family - she got married to an extremely good-looking guy (physically). Two months into their shaadi, she discovered he was an alcoholic. After their first child was born, he left her for Canada and never returned. She spent the next 40 years (she’s almost 60 now) raising her son by herself. No one could have predicted their marriage would have turned this manner after seeing their wedding pictures - they were both extremely beautiful and looked like such a ‘good’ couple.
sigh Anyways that’s an extreme example. i just don’t believe that she should consider herself unfortunate; he could turn out to be a really really nice guy on the inside (Insha’Allah). i sincerely wish them both lots of luck.
oh hes lovely :) im getting jealous just thinknig bout it hehe :)
im more scared for him... i know hes lived his life having people being scared of him and touching him... but whats a body? its just a shell... its the soul that counts haina?
he has my cheeks splitting when im with him... i generally cant stop laffing.. everytime i see him i cant help but smile.. and just be thankful that hes alive and im able to be in his company..
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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
I know someone who is physically disabled.. he cant walk properly.. his body is deformed.. he suffered from polio in the mid 70's
but he is the most handsomest guy i know.. and the most intelligent.. he has charm and charisma.. anyone who spends more than 5 minutes with me is bound to be captured by his purity, his thoughts.. his whole view on life..
people get scared of him in the beginning.. as he looks abnormal.. but he has more guts than a 'normal' person... hes educated, funny, never bores u and he doesnt rely on anyone..
newaaaays... hes just been engaged... and the question is... is it wrong? is it torture for the gal whose marrying him? (i dont know the girl... i only know him).. what do u think?
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From what you described,I think the girl is very lucky to have him.He seems like the kind of person who seems to understand and care for others -despite his own hardships.And Im sure if the girl loves him,things should be fine.Its up to them.Insha Allah things will go fine.
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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
newaaaays... hes just been engaged... and the question is... is it wrong? is it torture for the gal whose marrying him? (i dont know the girl... i only know him).. what do u think?
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i think this whole story is beautiful.
i honestly used to be scared of ppl that were "special/different" but having worked with so many children that are disabled, i have grown to understand them and not be scared of them
i think its wonderful that he's found some1 who wants to share his life with him
Best of Luck to both of them!
Slightly off topic but personally I think deaf girls, who wear those regular hearing aids and use sign language. are incredibly sexy. Its just the extra effort in the ve day which makes for bubblier people=more attractive ppl.
I am a disabled Cricketer.....I cant bowl the flipper. For a leggie thats a sin!
my grandfather was physically disabled… and my grandmother married him knowing about it. in those days it was rather a social stigma, but she didn’t care, and they had a very loving relationship.
a very good friend of mine wears a hearing aid, however she is so lovely and bubbly and vivacious, that you soon forget that she is disabled. her speech is slightly impaired… but she’s got such a bright smile! she is one of the most beautiful people i know :k:
my mother recently went to her 25th year college reunion. some of her classmates had been in touch via email or phone, but most of them hadn’t seen each other in years. almost everyone came with their spouses and grown up kids.. and the best part of the day was when one of the classmates proposed to my mom’s friend who was polio disabled and single for all those years! this lady is in her fifties… and she finally has her chance at love and marriage love that story. The lady runs her own business, a clothing boutique. Mom tells me she always had such a positive outlook on life, she always said “i’m physically challenged, not physically disabled” :k:
so sadz, i wish your friend all the best, insha’Allah the couple will be very happy together
You know this a lot of BS honestly. All of you women/girls talk as if you saw this guy and he proposed you would say yes, just because of his personality but honestly I doubt that anyone would accept, personality or not. There is really a lot of attachment to looks and the way a person stands in society and the stigma of physical disabilities that people can not just make that go away.
I know several people who are disabled and you would be shocked at the way people treat them just because of that. Its like they have seen a monster. And what they get is pity not real friendship from people.
I was wondering when someone will do a little reality check. the threads that I have seen as the what ppl are looking for in their mates have lists that are focused on physical attributes, complexion, height, etc are a huge issue. Threads on topic of whether girls can go for someone who is overweight or has thinning hair..
the responses to that indicate that this dude would have a snowballs' chance in hell of finding someone who would go for him just based on his personality.
sadzz I am happy for your friend, and I hope his wife treats him with respect and love.
In my humblest opinion, i don’t think it should be “torture” for the girl because i am assuming that she knows about his physical condition and was aware of it when she agreed to accept the proposal. (Or am i mistaken regarding that?). On the surface, by your statements in the first post, i understand that he is (hopefully) an intelligent, articulate, and kind person. i think the girl is pretty fortunate if all those qualities are in him. :k: