Re: Physical relationships and marriage
For two reasons. Firstly it eliminates feelings of guilt to an extent. The rejector is seen as the “bad guy” and if I am not the rejector…then I’m not the bad guy…or well…less of a bad guy…is what some people believe. Secondly, some guys think that if the girl is the one to dump them, then it places her in a position of more power…and gives/preserves more dignity/izzat. The person doing the rejecting is in a more stronger/stable position even if the act is awkward for them…while the person who is rejected feels embarrassed and maybe unworthy. So some guys…in an attempt to avoid placing the girl in that lower and more painful position of being the “rejected” one…will deliberately piss her off so that she’s the one who does the rejecting. They believe it will make the breakup less painful for her if she initiates the rejection…a twisted form of “chivalry”…that is still not without pain for the girl. So, it’s either the first or the second reason or a combination of both…or so I’ve heard.