Physical relationships and marriage

[Paheli00]

Re: Physical relationships and marriage

@Paa_Jee

Paheli if your best friend were in a position like that wouldn’t you want him/her to get out of it? No one wants to live the promiscuous lifestyle. Of course I want him to change, he’s like a brother to me.

Don’t assume what other people want. One of my husband’s close friend (who I’m also good friends with) is currently living the “promiscuous” lifestyle. He was dating a girl but they broke up about 2 years ago. He’s in his mid 30’s, a surgeon who makes plenty of money, and right now has 0 interest in settling down. He’s not an idiot and is fully aware of his own choices. He’s happy and has no interest in getting into a serious relationship/marriage right now. Am I or my husband going to try to convince him otherwise? No. B/C he’s an adult is capable of making is own decisions. If he was doing drugs or something that was physically putting himself in danger, that’s another thing.

Speaking of siblings…would you want your sister or daughter marrying a guy like this? A guy who is not 100% sure that he can be faithful to her after nikah?

@Paa_Jee

I think in this case he needs the responsibility of a wife to change. All his life he has lived a carefree lifestyle,** that’s whats caused him** to veer off the path of desisness i suppose. Once he gets married I think he’ll start to settle down. But then again only time can tell. He’s told me that he wants to change and that he can no longer continue on lest he catch a disease or worst he might get attached with a promiscuous woman.

Once again…all about what YOU think. The problem here is you’re involving the life of a innocent 3rd party. YOU may think that the responsibility of a wife will change him and have no problem taking that risk but it’s a very selfish (to put it politely) move b/c if you’re thinking is wrong…then it’s going to destroy that innocent girl who did nothing to deserve a husband that’s not ready to commit to her and her ONLY.