Physical relationships and marriage

[OYMWA]

Re: Physical relationships and marriage

@Paa_Jee

Paheli if your best friend were in a position like that wouldn’t you want him/her to get out of it? No one wants to live the promiscuous lifestyle. Of course I want him to change, he’s like a brother to me**. I think in this case he needs the responsibility of a wife to change.** All his life he has lived a carefree lifestyle, that’s whats caused him to veer off the path of desisness i suppose. Once he gets married I think he’ll start to settle down. But then again only time can tell. He’s told me that he wants to change and that he can no longer continue on lest he catch a disease or worst he might get attached with a promiscuous woman. Then the cycle repeats, we must do our best to help people if they’re willing to change then we should support that instead of discourage them.

I strongly disagree with this. It will be better if you make your friend realize that his problem is within and not out there. He needs to take responsibility for his actions, instead of you trying to take a chance with a pious girl’s life. You seem to assume that if he gets married to this girl he will come around and become better. What if the opposite happens and he ends up misguiding her too? You just need to find a different way to support and encourage him to change.