Physical relationships and marriage

[Paheli00]

Re: Physical relationships and marriage

@Paa_Jee

How can you be 100% sure that they were 100% sure? You can never know.

The same way you seem to be so sure/convinced that your friend will be able to control his urges and remain faithful to this girl…even though he himself has doubts.

@Paa_Jee

if someone wants to change themselves then they can.

I agree. If someone truly wants to change, it is possible. But that’s not what’s happening here.

@Paa_Jee

But in other words** I want him** to get married and settle down when he has the time, before something goes wrong now that he has time. I know his family and his parents, they’re modest and good folk and if I can convince him to get married and better his life then I’m all for it. I think that if he misses the chance to marry this seeta savatri girl then he’ll end up with some horrible woman who’s going to never understand where he’s coming from. And THAT will cause him to end his marriage and plunge right back in to promiscuity again. He doesn’t need a woman like himself. He needs someone who’s humble and is willing to forgive his sins.

It doesn’t look like your friend is the one who wants to change and commit to one woman. This is what YOU want b/c YOU believe this is what’s best for him. I can’t remember the last time a gora person I met had to be “convinced” that they need to marry. That desire to commit yourself to one person when you have been sexually active before needs to come from within. You friend himself is having serious doubts. Now if you and everyone else gang up and convince him how this is the best thing for him…even though he’s not sure himself…then there is a good chance things won’t be so rosy afterwards not only for the guy…but also the innocent girl who is involved.

But hey what do I know? You are dead set on your own beliefs and nothing anyone says here will convince you otherwise. So good luck with your mission of getting your friend married so this girl right now so he doesn’t potentially end up with a “horrible woman” in the future.