Physical relationships and marriage

[Paa_Jee]

Re: Physical relationships and marriage

@redvelvet

I never said that he should never get married or doesn’t deserve to get married. But I don’t think he should get married when he is both mentally and emotionally uncertain about making a lifelong commitment to one woman. Maybe he needs time off to think about what he wants and whether he can manage monogamy…before taking that plunge.

Also, you said in your post that your friend feels “guilty.” Guilt is felt when one thinks they have made a mistake and one realizes that they did have some control over the situations and their actions. He would not be feeling “guilty” if he thought he wasn’t at fault. So, basically your friend himself feels that he has made mistakes and that he had control over his actions…then why are you so adamant that he made no mistakes at all and that it the fault if everybody else (society, his parents) except. Why are you more defensive about your friend’s past the he himself is? That’s something to reflect on.

That won’t happen, he’s set to marry that girl very soon. The reason why I’m defensive is that I believe everyone deserves a chance, if someone wants to change themselves then they can. It’s not like the raped anyone. Whatever he did had the consent of both parties. But in other words I want him to get married and settle down when he has the time, before something goes wrong now that he has time. I know his family and his parents, they’re modest and good folk and if I can convince him to get married and better his life then I’m all for it. I think that if he misses the chance to marry this seeta savatri girl then he’ll end up with some horrible woman who’s going to never understand where he’s coming from. And THAT will cause him to end his marriage and plunge right back in to promiscuity again. He doesn’t need a woman like himself. He needs someone who’s humble and is willing to forgive his sins.