Physical Involvement

[pak2015]

Re: Physical Involvement

@Reha

If you believe that Islam gives us room to twist then that is your call. What I wrote doesn’t JUSTIFY anything. It tells us to keep our sins to ourselves…to still repent but keep them to ourselves. There is a huge difference.

Also, owning up that mistake is not something that needs to be done in front of another human being unless it directly impacts them. The forgiver and ultimate judge is Allah. Not you. Owning up in front of others is not needed.

I’m not talking about what Islam actually says. I’m talking about human nature and what happens in reality, regardless of what religion says. The reality is society is filled with vices, and especially in our culture, deceit and dishonesty are rampant from the maids to the police to the political leaders. Every one is deceiving another. Every one acts nice in public, but its hard to find genuine people.

Forgiveness is not required neither are you repenting when disclosing a past, repenting is between you and Allah. It’s about portraying your true genuine self to your future husband and wife–both the good and bad.

Rishta process has become like a job interview–only present yourself in best possible light, making sure not to reveal any true weaknesses or past mistakes. That’s not best way to make life altering decisions because those weaknesses and/or past mistakes will likely come to light eventually. Be genuine from beginning.