Re: Physical Involvement
He has a choice…he does not have to tell you about anything he did before you became his wife. He has absolutely NO obligation to tell you about any flings or past before you are husband and wife. What happened before “I DO” is none of your business and you have no right to hold him responsible for it. He was a free man to do as he wishes.
Deception would be lying to you about anything he does after he met you or you became his wife. Deception would be lying about something that will directly impact you like a prior marriage that had kids or an STD or a lawsuit, etc.