Re: Physical Involvement
I never said anything of the sort that non-disclosure is a 6th pillar of Islam. Those are your words. All I said was don’t twist things to suit your purpose…and that still stands. Why should a ruling change because “people” are not happy with it? What is this? A buffet? Can I also request you change our prayer timings and while you’re at it work on this whole zakat thing? I mean what’s up with that?
If you do a quick good search…islamic ruling on disclosure of past relationships:
Must I tell my future husband about my shameful past? | IslamicAnswers.com: Islamic Advice (make sure you scroll all the way down for the references)
Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace be upon him) said, All my Community will be excused except those who are blatant. And it is from blatancy for one to perform an act at night and to wake up and tell something that they did such-and-such, while Allah had concealed it for them. They slept under the cover of Allah, and they rended Allah’s covering from themselves in the morning. [Bukhari and Muslim]
Keep scrolling down and you will find the same answers everywhere you go.
I was specifically told by our Muslim marriage counselor when I was getting married that it IS wrong to discuss past relationships with a future spouse (with reference at that time). So we did not.
Even though its tempting and you’re curious as hell in the beginning…it goes away and you’re glad your future isn’t tainted by the past in the end.