Re: Physical Involvement
As if promoting dishonesty and deceit in the name of Islam, being too ashamed and embarrassed of your past that you fear rejection, and hence withhold information or just simply lying about it is not insecurity?
Okay maybe people who want to know about such things are insecure when stepping into a new relationship with a person they had no prior contact. And? Life is not a Bollywood movie where you do the trolley parade, wind starts blowing and violin starts playing when you see your potential, realise he’s the one and within a week, you are married!
For some people, it takes quite a long of time to get secure in a relationship despite the apparent attraction. We are not talking about 40 plus folks who decide to re-marry hence knew from the very first day what practicalities matter and how not to repeat the past. Courting can be a very tricky situation for most young couple who are trying to settle down for the first time. They go through phases of lots of new emotions, youthful curiosity, highs and lows and drama.
Honestly, most adults who had seen the world outside of their immediate families and rishta aunties do hold the right communications skills to talk about sensitive topics in a mature and discreet manner at an appropriate point , and turn it into an all round interesting conversation if they are lucky. I genuinely feel sorry for anyone who was asked such beyhooda questions during trolley parade or via text message.