Physical Involvement

[Jolie]

Re: Physical Involvement

@S_Punk

Most people do know how to talk to potentials… however, theres loads of other things to talk abt. I don’t remember asking my now-husband whether he had girlfriends.. we spoke abt our studies/future goals/friends/activities, conversation just flowed abt any of those thing… i’m assuming most couples do the same. This is not rocket science… u said it urself… we were given reasoning for a purpose - there are certain things that do not need disclosure and certain things do. And again…** if someone asks u abt ur past in regards to relationships etc… u have a moral responsibility to be honest when u answer.** If u don’t want to answer and u know it’s extremely important for the other person… call it quits, that’s also on ur shoulders. Go find someone else. If someone did that.. most ppl would be smart enough to figure out oh ok.. he must have had some sort of a past. I wouldn’t feel jipped or lied to. If a squeeky clean past is a requirement, don’t pursue said rishta… they’d probably say it upfront anyway, before getting too involved. U still have no room to lie.

Nowhere does Islam say one can lie in that scenario…nor have any of the previous posters advocated lying. I don’t see how everyone is making this a case of ppl promoting lying in the name of Islam.

You are the reasonable one here! This is the second time you had said what I said few pages ago, and I appreciate it. I appreciate you for not blindly promoting dishonesty and deceit in the name of Islam just to suit your own agenda. You won’t get a job if sometimes at interviews you refuse to give a simple yes or no answer or try to go round the circles over some question, so why should such dishonesty and manipulation be encouraged in courting process. Honesty is the best policy. If if you start promoting dishonesty in one aspect, it would naturally start creeping into other spheres as well. It’s a slippery slop. So how about an 100% honesty policy?

Yes, we can sit here and discuss whether it’s necessary to know such information or not is pointless because at the end of the day it is individual’s choice and right to know the truth. Whether they should use such information against an otherwise suitable suitor is also their choice, but we can hope and encourage that make a reasonable choice. This is how things should be. I certainly believe in giving good people a chance, but at the same time, no one has the right to dictate any standards for anyone or decide what things are important to know, and what aren’t. Different people, different personalities, different requirements.