Physical Involvement

[Jolie]

Re: Physical Involvement

@S_Punk

I don’t think anyone is saying what u seem to think, Jolie.. which is that if someone asks u “Have u done such-and-such thing in ur past?” And the person lies in response. No one is promoting lying… rather, that the question should not be posed in the first place. If u are planning ur future with someone, judge them based on what u see today… not an act committed in their past that has no bearing on anyone except the 2 who were involved (past relationships/intimacy)… obvs in cases of rape/abuse.. these are crimes where someone is being hurt, they must be told.

These questions are never posed in ‘first place’ or at least this is not how things work in my circle, we don’t do the whole tea trolley charade. But trust me these questions eventually and most naturally prop up when a girl and guy starts communicating in little detail. At that stage in time, I believe both partners deserve absolute honesty from each other no matter how irrelevant the question is. If a girl or boy doesn’t want to marry a person who was involved in pre-marital sex, shouldn’t their choice be respected?Whatever happened to that whole preference preaching? Hypocrisy. Let’s not encourage selfish behaviour just because someone feels too embarrassed to reveal their boo boos.

No matter what the intentions are, I just don’t tolerate dishonesty. I’m proud to be such a bad Muslim in this case.