Physical Involvement

[pak2015]

Re: Physical Involvement

@Reha

I agree but who you are today is what you should be judged on by your spouse - not by your mistakes made years ago that you’ve already repented for.

Reality is that Allah swt knows human nature and that is why these laws and rules have come about. You’re telling me Islam is out of touch with reality and its not meant to be practiced by realistic people such as yourself? So you have a much better grip on how society functions versus the Creator Himself? I don’t think so.

Make a choice…either you believe in Islam or not…practicing is a different thing altogether but its not right to reject Islam’s ideas altogether.

I agree that people change over time and through experience. And that’s why I’ve been saying isolated mistakes should not be used to judge, but rather trends in behavior over a long period of time are a better measure. However, to purposefully hide to paint yourself in a better light is deceiving.

Listen, what are you saying–I’m not saying Allah or Islam is wrong or that I have a better touch than Allah. I’m not even criticizing Islam or saying it’s out of touch. I’m criticizing HUMAN BEINGS. I’m saying our own Islamic society does not always follow those laws or rules prescribed by our religion. I’m not blaming Islam, I’m blaming human beings. Just look at the Muslim world, you really think we as human beings are doing right in our society. Islam is great, we as Muslims and humans are not. Two different things.

I personally know a guy who prays 5x a day, eats halal only, fasts, goes on Hajj but has used and had sexual relationships with several Pakistani women, including a married woman and a divorcee. He used to drink and go to strip clubs all while praying 5x a day. Guess who he ended up marrying? A really decent hijabi. I’m pretty sure she doesn’t know his past but sees him following religion so he must be a great guy. I find that extremely deceitful and disturbing. It’s false advertising. Now imagine how hurt and deceived she will be if she ever finds out especially since several people are aware of this guy’s transgressions.