Okay, shoot me for this, but this is something which i want to know:
In my own khandaan, I’ve known that there were few guys who didn’t want to marry certain girls because they just didn’t like them, but they ended up being married because of being forced by families. Even after marriage, their apparent behaviour with their wives is quite rude, and not so good, but still they have kids I mean, how do people get physically intimate with their partners if they don’t feel love for them and when there’s no emotional intimacy? I am sure that’s very much a common thing. Physical intimacy is possible without love?
I agree with Biskut here. When you're married to someone who you dont find sexually attractive, let alone just CUTE, you'd still end up having babies with them. It just wont be love making, but solely for the purpose of kids. And no cuddling afterwards. Just roll off and flick off the lights. Sorry if thats too much imagery lol
i think many do it as a little show for society, they dont love each other, he might not treat her well, i've seen couples like that, the whole sex thing is just to keep the show going so that nobody suspects that anything is wrong b/c quite a few desis see divorce as "social suicide" so going through the motions without feeling anything just so you can get the right biological results is what it might be like for some couples...............
I can live without sex but cannot live for few hours without being hugged/cuddled. And I hate myself for this and my husband knows my weakness and I hate him for this.
I can live without sex but cannot live for few hours without being hugged/cuddled. And I hate myself for this and my husband knows my weakness and I hate him for this.
I don't want to interfere in your household issues, but don't you think you could do better than him? For example ... I like to hug ... I think it is a very nice thing to do ... :)
I can live without sex but cannot live for few hours without being hugged/cuddled. And I hate myself for this and my husband knows my weakness and I hate him for this.
Psyah, I assume 'rock bottom' refers to my mention of marital rape. If so, you'll notice I offered it as an additional example of 'surprising' things a marriage can endure, as a matter of fact. I did not say sex without emotion/love = rape. Everyone knows mutual, consensual physical gratification can happen without love/emotions, or even intellectual intercourse.
Since you've brought it up, 'rock bottom' is far more commonplace than one thinks. Taking one example, that of the OP's male relatives, it's not a leap to assume that if a man is being rude to his wife in public/makes no attempt to hide the fact that he dislikes/disrespects her, that this humiliating behavior will translate in the bedroom where it's even easier to do.
A very bad example , but just to understand , . . . people do go for hookers too . We should understand that desire for sex is like desire for water . You drink water because you need it , not that you are madly in love with it . And a marriage with love in it, is like Lassi . You love Lassi and you love drinking it :D
Psyah, I assume 'rock bottom' refers to my mention of marital rape. If so, you'll notice I offered it as an additional example of 'surprising' things a marriage can endure, as a matter of fact. I did not say sex without emotion/love = rape. Everyone knows mutual, consensual physical gratification can happen without love/emotions, or even intellectual intercourse.
Since you've brought it up, 'rock bottom' is far more commonplace than one thinks. Taking one example, that of the OP's male relatives, it's not a leap to assume that if a man is being rude to his wife in public/makes no attempt to hide the fact that he dislikes/disrespects her, that this humiliating behavior will translate in the bedroom where it's even easier to do.
Wow! Those words are amazing .... my urgency to avoid 'rock bottom' examples was not an attempt to undermine the frequency of such cases, knowledge of which you seem to be privy to, but to lighten the tone of the thread, if that, as it were allowed.
I also wanted to emphasise to the OP that emotionless physical intimacy is more commonplace than marital rape and hence satisfy the query even more readily that not only is it possible to have emotionless physical intimacy but also it needn't have to be in marital rape cases where it occurs.
By the way ... I might have to start doing hijab from your posts because the intellectual intercourse is making me feel unchaste ... :)
What does knowledge of which I seem to be privy to, mean? It's not classified information, nor is it difficult to deduce.
The OP is talking about actively carrying on with someone you dislike and do not have a cordial relationship with. She cites not only the lack of love, but the lack of respect. This is different from a couple simply being 'formal' with each other.
And who knew being tongue-in-cheek could make you feel "unchaste." Frankly I'm not sure how to react to that, you being the resident holy man of this forum. Seems your instructive 'script' has everyone flustered. Weird, the lot of you.
I mean, how do people get physically intimate with their partners if they don’t feel love for them and when there’s no emotional intimacy? I am sure that’s very much a common thing. Physical intimacy is possible without love?
