Redvelvet, I'm going a bit off topic.... but don't you think its not the guys who are picky. Its mostly the moms that want a chaand si bahu while the guys can instantly be attracted to any seedhi saadhi larki, if they like her smile, or eyes or any one cute feature that sets the girl apart. Its the moms who are in khoob-tar ki talaash, don't you think?
I have heard that MV and I've seen it as well......where the moms can sometimes be more picky than their sons.
At the same time.....I HAVE also heard guys say that they want their partner to have such and such physical attributes.
I'm not comparing the guys and the girls, here MV. The purpose of my previous post was to point out the difference in mentality that elders have toward their sons and daugthers. I've seen it many times where parents will try to convince their daugther to say yes to a rishta she doesn't find physically attractive. However........parents will go easy on their sons if they choose to reject someone because they don't feel an attraction.
For example......parents might want a patli larki for their son. But if their daugther is not attracted to a rishta that is over-weight..........you get responses like "koi baat nahin beta, after marriage you can help him lose weight."
Let me say that I KNOW physical appearance is NO indication of one's character. You could be a perfect 10 on the outside.........and your personality can be below a zero.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What one person finds attractive.....the next person may not. However........parents should understand that physical attraction is a part of human nature present in both genders.
I agree with the part about guys indicating their preference of physical attributes as well. I personally knew someone that liked a girl who was a bit curvy as a possible rishta but his mom rejected it because she wanted a patli bahu.
Girls…wake-up. You know its YOURSELFS who when it comes to selection, love or arranged, you just go for guys.
You know its YOURSELFS who melt at guys whether good, normal or ugly.
So stop blaming others lol!
Us Guys are smart we know looks are important and we maintain as so.
Nutwer that was not even a proper post. Did not make sense much?!
LOL. Ditto. Several people on this thread have said that physical attraction is important for BOTH men and women. The women here are not denying that they take physical attraction is a factor they consider. It has ALREADY been maintained that both genders want someone they are physically attracted to. It is not an issue of men being smarter than woman or women being smarter than men. This is an innate quality.......it's part of human nature. Regardless of whether an individual is fat, thin, curvy, tall, short, dark, fair.....................people differ in regards to who they find attractive.
LOL. Ditto. Several people on this thread have said that physical attraction is important for BOTH men and women. The women here are not denying that they take physical attraction is a factor they consider. It has ALREADY been maintained that both genders want someone they are physically attracted to. It is not an issue of men being smarter than woman or women being smarter than men. This is an innate quality.......it's part of human nature. Regardless of whether an individual is fat, thin, curvy, tall, short, dark, fair.....................people differ in regards to who they find attractive.
sheyn aapi, physical attraction happens. Stop adopting this western mentality!! You don’t need to go on dates to find attraction. You are attracted to that person that is why you continue seeing the person. get it..
and after couple years, the reality sets in and that “attraction” is gone or somwhat gone, so what’s the point..
However, your partner will not look perfect 24/7 so dont expect it. Even the prettiest girls go through their grungy days.
One more thing, the theory about our elders not finding it important so why do we is not really a good one. Our elders were living in a different era, brought up with different mentality, had different expectations of one another, different responsibilities, etc.
LOL. Ditto. Several people on this thread have said that physical attraction is important for BOTH men and women. The women here are not denying that they take physical attraction is a factor they consider. It has ALREADY been maintained that both genders want someone they are physically attracted to. It is not an issue of men being smarter than woman or women being smarter than men. This is an innate quality.......it's part of human nature. Regardless of whether an individual is fat, thin, curvy, tall, short, dark, fair.....................people differ in regards to who they find attractive.
One more thing, the theory about our elders not finding it important so why do we is not really a good one. Our elders were living in a different era, brought up with different mentality, had different expectations of one another, different responsibilities, etc.
our elders were also much more healthy compared to today's generation.. they didn't need to put chemicals n all that jazz to look attractive ;)
our elders were also much more healthy compared to today's generation.. they didn't need to put chemicals n all that jazz to look attractive ;)
Well the cosmetic business has come a long way since the times of our elders. Back then there might have been your surma bottle.....one lipstick......and your jar of Tibet Snow......and some talcum powder. Nowadays.......oh the variety.......and oh the procedures!
our elders were also much more healthy compared to today's generation.. they didn't need to put chemicals n all that jazz to look attractive ;)
What chemicals are you talking about? If you're talking about make up, its as old as time itself if not more. They didnt have Guerlain...but they did have that damn Fair n Lovely!
It's possible to develop a physical attraction witin a short span of time. After all, that's where the idea of "love at first sight" comes from. The moment you see someone.......you know little to zero about their personality. All that you see is their face and their body language.......and often times these first qualities are what develop an attraction toward the person. And then you take that initial attraction a step further and get to know the individual and learn about his/her personality.
Many of us (male and female) have watched a movie where we see an actor or actress for the first time and develop an instant attraction. So, it does happen. It happens all the time. Not only with celebrities..........but with ordinary people as well. This physical attraction is like the initial attraction. Perhaps you can also call it superficial attraction. Whether or not one chooses to develop a committed relationship with the attractive individual will also depend upon compatibility of personality.
However, as I've said earlier..........physical attraction.........IS important in a relationship. One should feel physically attracted to their significant other.
redvelvet, how old are you? each and every post i read of yours is so..wise!
I dnt mean to be rude. But what my stud self meant was, u c, speaking from real-life statistics;
Girls do go for the conventionally less good-looking or less normally attractive men, as opposed to men.
This claim is proven from the real-life mass phenomena of ave/bad looking men with beatiful/fine looking women compared to vice versa. This holds for Desi and back-home population.
C’mon admit it A guy dnt need to be physically attractive (the main attractivess) to pull girls.
sweet-talking, good dressing, good manners usually often suffice ( the fake attributes)
so subsequently i find it amusing and awkward when girls otherwise rant and drool on about good looks or physical attrativeness.
You know that weird situation where you see an above average girl with a supposedly below average guy? You wonder what the heck he did to get her right???
He was himself and he was proud of it. Confidence is what does it for most girls...its intriguing, mystifying and makes us wonder what exactly is this person is so proud of?
You don’t need to go on dates to find attraction. You are attracted to that person that is why you continue seeing the person. 
get it..