Re: Physical abuse possible?
with all due respect, after the feedback you’ve been given, you’re making excuses for yourself and your own life. it’s not going to affect any of us whether or not you choose to listen to sense or go on a “feeling” that will go away with time. i think your feelings are mostly manipulated by the different sides of him and that’s pretty sad because you cannot allow yourself to ignore or look past his indiscretions, especially those which can prove fatal to you in the future and travel on the coat tails of hope that he won’t treat you like he does to his family.. which is apparently “not a habit of doing it all the time” it shouldn’t be done AT ALL.
if he had any respect for you or any other women, then he wouldn’t so much as raise a finger on his own sisters and his own mother. not even once. that is not what a man is, and if you think or hope that he will change after marriage then more fool you.
as far as parents are concerned, there comes a point where you can’t care too much on the reputation of your family and try to put that before your own safety because evidently this is serious and your fear and emotions throughout your posts clearly show this. you’re gonna have to man up a little and rip the band-aid off as fast as you can for the family. people will always talk instantly, in the long run atleast you’ll be safe.
why am i talking like as if i have any idea of what i’m saying. ignore if you wish. peace homeboys.