Re: Physical abuse possible?
Oh no, I wasn’t trying to imply that you shouldn’t talk to them. Obviously you can’t break the engagement without telling them your reasons for it. I simply wrote my statement earlier to mean that due to their attitude so far, that’s why I personally didn’t advise you earlier to “discuss” this with them. There is a big difference between “discussing” this with them to figure out what should be done…and letting them know that you have serious concerns for your safety and will not marry this man. Just like your mother said…this isn’t about “asking”…it’s more like “informing” them of a decision.
Of course I hope that they support your decision. But I think you also need to be ready for the chance that they might not support you. With or without their support, you need to be ready to do whatever it takes so this marriage doesn’t happen b/c God has given you PLENTY of red flags to let you know that this is not a good idea.
BTW, you mentioned it’s common for parents to arranged marriages with asking their children’s opinion where you’re from. The fact that your parents didn’t raise any concerns knowing that he hit his 2 sisters and shoved his mother…is that (ie. HIS behavior) also common in your area?