Phone Shenanigans

arabianights · June 25, 2015, 5:32pm

Re: Phone Shenanigans

The truth is girls do get judged by guys for their sexual behavior (this crosses cultures and religions, not specific to Pak guys) so girls should be smarter to make sure if they are going to do it then make sure it’s with the guy who is serious about them and will marry them. The reason why guys tend to girls for this is because they know 1. Guys use girls for their own sexual pleasure and then dump them and they don’t want sloppy seconds 2. Girls get hit on much more than guys so guys don’t like it when girls aren’t selective in who they choose to be sexual with.

Now having said that this is stupid to only use sexting as the criteria to judge her on since she’s doing it with the guy she likes and hopes to marry. It’s okay to question it for a second but need to look at overall picture–look at over all character of the girl to see if this is a character thing or she just is really into this guy. This is why it’s better to avoid temptation from the beginning because even the most religious and pious will fall for temptation at some point. He clearly tempted her, engaged in the behavior and now is blaming her for it. That’s wrong. He needs to look at her overall though. Is she really outgoing, friendly with anyone and everyone, seeks attention, needs constant validation. If all those are present then sexting is least of his concerns.

I agree with this. As i meet more people i’m beginning to see even the people who you think have no secrets will have some and sometimes even worse than the ones who’s secrets are known. Also i am wondering who initiated the talks? I agree with the above it’s likely she was lead into it, i doubt most girls would straight away do that.

As for your friend its up to him. He will be the one living with her not you so i don’t think it was a good idea for him to ask you. I don’t think its a good idea he involved his friends either.