Who here would go for a guy who is overweight? We’re talking a tubby tummy. Not like 500 lbs. But definitely needs to trim his portions, stop eating carbs so much and needs to really hit the gym DAILY.
But the person is sweet, treats you well, and you know he would take proper care of his wife…plus, you don’t need to deal with an ego over good looks leading to nakhray or possibly getting tired of you or leaving you…because he doesn’t have those looks. However, you have seen his pics from earlier when he was thinner and he was cute, and his facial features are attractive, you just know and he knows that weight needs to be lost?
But he’s just too busy to lose weight because he’s a busy professional?
Who here would go for a guy who is overweight? We're talking a tubby tummy. Not like 500 lbs. But definitely needs to trim his portions, stop eating carbs so much and needs to really hit the gym DAILY.
But the person is sweet, treats you well, and you know he would take proper care of his wife...plus, you don't need to deal with an ego over good looks leading to nakhray or possibly getting tired of you or leaving you...because he doesn't have those looks. However, you have seen his pics from earlier when he was thinner and he was cute, and his facial features are attractive, you just know and he knows that weight needs to be lost?
But he's just too busy to lose weight because he's a busy professional?
I remember hearing a story like this from one of the blogs. A good-for-nothing, overweight cousin of a blogger, trimmed up and got his act together after meeting/marrying a girl. Looks like this one just needs some encouragement.
Who is to say he won't put on more weight after marriage? Isn't that how it works? People let go after they get hitched because now they don't have to worry about impressing a potential mate.
Who is to say he won't put on more weight after marriage? Isn't that how it works? People let go after they get hitched because now they don't have to worry about impressing a potential mate.
And worst of all fat jokes won't be cool anymore.
Not necessarily marriage, most overweight people will become more overweight with time. Studies have shown that consistently.
I've seen so many couples where the guy balloons up so much after marriage and kids.....but the wife stays slim and trim after having kids. Feel sorry for em.
My guy has gained weight :( He stress eats and I'm the opposite. The food he eats at home also doesn't help. I'm in a love relationship (lol love relationship) though. So, it doesn't matter what he looks like he's great.
My guy has gained weight :( He stress eats and I'm the opposite. The food he eats at home also doesn't help. I'm in a love relationship (lol love relationship) though. So, it doesn't matter what he looks like he's great.
Everyone's in charge of their own body, I've seen slim girls gain weight after kids and let themselves go too and I've seen the opposite as well.
If he recognizes he has weight to lose and you guys are willing to help each other , then it's not a problem at all. He seems like a great catch and weight is always changing for everyone, I don't think it would be a deal breaker for me.
My husband went through a period of weight gain BEFORE we were married but he's at his lowest weight now after marriage and loves the gym, so it's not true about guys letting go after marriage. It's just how important their health is to them and if they really care to make a change. We made a lot of changes as a couple like letting go of some things or eating out in moderation but it works. I've introduced him to a lot more veggies in his diet too.
If you're really into healthy eating and working out - you can do that as a couple. He probably just has bad habits and as (some) women cook more frequently after marriage, you really do have the power to limit those carbs and heavy foods at night. I'm sure once he sees how great he's starting to look and feel he'll be more inclined to keep it that way.
Desi men are conventionally not taught how to cook so it's eating out for so many guys. Even guys who've been living on their own for ages only eat take outs. It's crazy.
But even those dudes can go to the gym and make up for the calorie intake. It's all motivation really. A friend of mine got engaged to his fiancé as an obese person but he got married as a skinny guy. It's amazing. A lot of people were teasing him that his fiancé was the reason and he replied that they're right. He did it for her not because of here.
I do think it's cruel to push a different life style on someone. If you're marrying someone don't expect them to change if you're fully aware of their lifestyle.
I'd marry him and then get him to lose some weight after so that he is healthy. Wouldn't be too particular about 6/8 pack abs and muscles and all that.
Desi men are conventionally not taught how to cook so it's eating out for so many guys. Even guys who've been living on their own for ages only eat take outs. It's crazy.
But even those dudes can go to the gym and make up for the calorie intake. It's all motivation really. A friend of mine got engaged to his fiancé as an obese person but he got married as a skinny guy. It's amazing. A lot of people were teasing him that his fiancé was the reason and he replied that they're right. He did it for her not because of here.
I do think it's cruel to push a different life style on someone. If you're marrying someone don't expect them to change if you're fully aware of their lifestyle.
Eating out is no excuse for getting fat. You're still in control of what you eat and how much you eat. And gym cannot makeup for bad eating habits.
Its really not only how much and what you eat, but when you eat. Majority of desis living anywhere in the world have this stupid stupid habit of having dinner only one hour before the bed time. That is a double edged sword. Not only its not healthy to eat heavy meal just before going to bed, but because their lunch to dinner is more than 8 hours awpart, they eat junk with their evening cup of tea. It should be the other way around, like dinner at 6 and a cookie or so with warm cup of milk, or a fruit closer to the bed time.
Its really not only how much and what you eat, but when you eat. Majority of desis living anywhere in the world have this stupid stupid habit of having dinner only one hour before the bed time. That is a double edged sword. Not only its not healthy to eat heavy meal just before going to bed, but because their lunch to dinner is more than 8 hours awpart, they eat junk with their evening cup of tea. It should be the other way around, like dinner at 6 and a cookie or so with warm cup of milk, or a fruit closer to the bed time.
Dude...cookie before bed time? May not be such an issue if you worked out in the evening and that way your body will burn more calories while you sleep to repair the wear and tear of muscles....so that cookie os used up. Otherwise it just gets stored as fat, no?
