Bisoux,
You need to understand that people will ALWAYS complain no matter what. Everybody has their own opinion and you can't please everyone.....and you shouldn't bother trying, honey.
You think people are complaining because you are 21. I know girls who have completed their masters.....and are still single........and people are complaining that they are tooo old and should have gotten married at 21-22 See what i mean? People will ALWAYS complain because they have NOTHING better to do.
Most people graduate college at the age of 21-22. And since you are already 21, that probably means that you don't have much of your college coursework left. Serisously, how much more do you have left? One semester? Two semesters? That's not bad at all. Now, if you're planning to become a doctor, of course then it will take longer.
I have friends who completed their education and graduation AFTER getting married. I even have friends that are continuing their education EVEN AFTER having a baby. There is NO age limit on when you can go back to school. If you live her in the US, then everyone knows that you go back to college and graduate whenever you want to.
I will be honest with you, that completing education after marriage is a little bit more challenging.....because you are juggling the responsibilities with marriages while also attending classes and studying for exams. So, yes it is tougher. BUT, its not impossible. If you put your mind to it.....you can accomplish anything!
I know a girl who got married at 16 and had two kids before she finally completed a degree in computer science. Now she's 24-25 years old with a degree and three kids. That's not bad at all. I do know that it was not easy for her, but she was determined to complete her education. And its amazing that she could be a wife, a mom, and a student at the same time.
^It seems like you value your education. I get the vibe that you are interested in completing it. And you will!
Why are you letting some dumb aunties and uncles get under your skin? Why do you care what they say about you? Are THEY gonna pay for your tuition bills? Are they gonna pay for your college books? Are THEY gonna help you study? If they're not gonna help or contribute to your education and dreams/goals........why give a crappola about them?
It is so tough to find a good rishta these days. I know many parents prefer to get their daughters married early because of this very problem. Honey, for all you know, these aunties and uncles might be jealous that you have found a good match whereas they still have to search for their daughters.
Talk to your fiance about your plans after marriage. Tell him that you would like to complete the remainder of your education and graduate because having a degree will allow you go get a job and you never know when a job might be necessary in the future......especially with the sad economy that we have now. I'm sure your fiance will support you after marriage. And you both can decide to to even delay your plans of having a family......until you finish your education.
It can be done. Don't worry. Don't let negative/jealous people bring you down. As for the Auntie who so cruelly said, "Let's see what she does." What a loser! Her comment implies that she is actually going to wait and see how you handle your marriage. OMG.....why is it even her DUTY to "wait and see?" She's NOT your mom, that she should have to "wait and see" anything in regards to you. Doesn't she have better things to do with her time? She should be "waiting and seeing" about her OWN children. Clearly a case of jealousy and not having a busy enough life. Your parents and you should do yourselves a favor and limit your contact with toxic "friends" whose OWN lives are soooo boring that they have to "wait and see" what others are doing.
Hold your head up high with pride. Thank Allah for giving you a good marriage partner. Thank Allah for giving you such supportive parents. And pray to Him to fulfill all your dreams and goals after marraige! You go and get married with pride and an easy heart, you're doing nothing wrong, and face those aunties and uncles with polite and dignified confidence. Don't let them dictate how your life will turn out. Grab your life and run with it!